Laura anxious to hear your OB appt...

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Laura anxious to hear your OB appt...
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 4:49pm
I've been checking all day...I hope your are just stuck in traffic, too tired to post or out celebrating.....I'm anxious to hear how it went....post ASAP......Karen
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 6:38pm

Hi Karen,

Thanks for checking in!! You are sooo sweet!!! I had to go a never ending meeting after rushing back from the OB and came home and gobbled food (Dh is out of town).. I can finally sit down and write calmly.. Everything was still good! I think! I wanted to ask you about dating the pregnancy.. My first u/s at 6w1d the CRL was 6w2d (which was ahead of schedule since I know when we triggered and I could not be 6w2d) but gestational sac was 5w6d so it came out to 6w1d.. the next time with RE, CRL was 7w6d when I was 8w but averaging a 8w2d GS, I came out to 8w. Today i was supposed to be 8w4d and I measured CRL of 8w3d. Also- RE u/s were in the afternoon, OB was early am. Is this normal? Is the baby falling behind?
Otherwise, it was a little uneventful.. my OB was back to his sweet self but at first was kind of preoccupied- his waiting room was very full. He gave me the "normal" pregnancy script and answered my zillion questions. he agreed to let me come in more often until after the 1st trimester. I said I'd want to go in a few days after CVS testing just to make sure the baby was okay. I asked him when i can stop worrying and after he made a joke "for the rest of your life" - he then said for m/cs? And he said he felt I was pretty much out of the woods- that it was 1-2% with everything he;s seeing.. He said even after all my m/cs... I do think he has seem tons of normal pregnancies (not recurrent multiple miscarriages like I've had).. but I hope he's right!!! now i have 2.5 weeks until CVS testing.. unless i go in sooner for reassurance. Oh, i gave urine analysis and am going for blood tomorrow.. Of course, I will call to find out the results at the end of teh week to find out (do they normally share or call or just call if it;s not ok?). Oh, at weigh in I'm 5 lbs over the last horrible weight I had (after being pg on and off for 1.5 years).. I'm somehow still fitting in to my clothes though things are tight (I'm somewhat petite.. I think reading being too skinny- which was not me- may not be good for pgs.. so I let it go a bit..)

I have been telling my mom.. I didn't tell her about all the losses until the last one this past Sept. when they suspected a molar pregnancy (cancer)- i was completely a wreck.. I'm just cautious since my mom has a tendency to tell her friends every details of everything and I'm not ready. She seems to be better about this topic since I'm very nervous.. But now she wants to go and buy baby underwear (?).. Slow down!!!

Thank you for checking in - and I understand what you mean about being more understanding with people who have had issues - as well as resenting people who pop em out with no worry nor care.. just not right.. how are you doing? how's the cramping and bloating? p.s. there is no such thing as TMI!! ((((Karen))))

oh, OB gave me a schpeel on numbers to call etc.. I looked at him a bit odd- so he clarified that around 20 weeks or so things will happen to my body that I might react to and want to call about.. You know, i have NO idea what this is about.. i have only been reading weeks 1-10 of the books..

Tons of hugs, Laura

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 7:20pm

Well thank goodness..I was worried when you hadn't post. I'm glad it was uneventful...you want uneventful at every appointment.

Hummm....what changes at 20 weeks? I wonder what he's referring to. Gosh, as soon as I knew I was going to carry my DD I didn't get freaked out about too much after that. For me I finally felt good at 20 weeks that is for sure. I had energy again and wasn't sick anymore. I loved it.

Yes, OBs always give you the percentages of success, that's there job. It's our job to worry when you have had so many losses, and really there's nothing that anyone is going to say until you get into the 2nd tri, then you can really relax.

Your measurements are fine. They are never that accurate. Don't let it scare you. My DD kept measuring small and she as just fine. I was 3 weeks early with her and she was 6lbs 5oz, when they had her at 5lbs. It was like that alot throughout my entire pg, they would always measure her under. I think I just got so wide, literally I carried in my hips that they couldn't get an accurate measurement of her. My hips stretched from 36" to 43", no lie. I was a size 6 and could barely pull a size 14 up after having her. Of course they went back, about 6 months and bfing helps. I ended up a little smaller after a year of bfing.

I had a molar pg scare last year too. My Hcg levels were off the charts. I did have twins so that accounted for the high levels but then after I lost them they kept going up. So I finally had a D&C. That was the first m/c where I actually miscarried most of it on my own. Typically they were missed m/cs like this one and I was scheduled for a D&C right away. Ugh, it was horrible and it dragged on and on. I was getting really depressed. It took me from March of last year until this fall to want to ttc again. Of course now that I'm older it's taking me longer to just get pg, which is a real pain in the you know what.....it's just one more obstacle. That along with my high risk to m/c is why I just don't feel like I'll keep trying. It's just too much work. Even ttc means testing, weekly blood tests, progesterone sups and then start the process all over again if I'm not pg. VERY romantic to say the least..... :)

I told my Mom because she also had 3 m/cs, but then luckily for her she was able to have me and my two sisters after those losses. She lost all of her pgs later, in 2nd tri and had bad bleeding, needed one transfusion. So she understands. But it's been hard because I thought that I would have the same history as her once I had one good pg, but it's not been the case. Her Mom, my Gram, also had many problems. She delivered all but one of her 6 kids preterm. My Aunt was born in the 20's at 2lbs, and somehow survived. She's never really had too many health issues too, it's really amazing. My Gram was told that my Mom was a tumor. She refused to let them operate on her...thank god too or none of us would have been here...smile. Niether of my sisters will have kids so it's just me...pretty sad to have 3 girls and only get one Grandchild....

Well you get some rest. I'm so glad things are going well.

Talk later....keep up the good work baby and mommy.....Karen

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Wed, 03-16-2005 - 9:07am

Hi Karen,

Just checking in to see how you are doing.. How are you? I'm fine.. still nervous.. been researching testing options to the hilt.. really due to my SIL having CVS- I had a talk with DH last night and he wants CVS.. He agreed to let us talk to my OB next week. I am going to see my OB at hopefully 10 weeks (next Friday) since I'm not scheduled for CVS until 11.5 weeks and I can't go that long without knowing if the baby is still growing and okay.. I am scheduled to go see my OB 3 days after CVS is.. It feel surreal to even be scheduling this far ahead.. I am dangerously thinking ahead.. scared to feel happy..

I also wanted to ask you about what testing you had done (for m/cs)- I;ve had:
karytope (DH too), two sonohysterograms (both normal- different doctors), FSH and e2 day 3 normal, inhibin b normal, normal TSH, negative anticardiolipin antibodies, lupus anticoagulant, negative MTHFR, negative factor 5 lediven, DHEAS, complete thrombophilia (protein c, s, antithrombin iii, prothrombin gene mutation, APA panel, LAC panel, prolactin, testosterone. The only result that came back + was MTHFR DNA mutation for copy of C677T but I was told and researched that this was normal. I'm asking since a buddy of mine just tested positive for two copies of C677T .. It brought up all the testing I went through and wonder if it was thorough.. (though it was a lot of blood).

Oh- I'll post when I get my blood and urine test call back from my doctor.. I don't think you mind me informing you- and I tell you more to seek your advice and keep in touch with you- I'd like for you to be here through what may be ahead..

Back to work- sending you tons of hugs,

Laura

p.s. That whole ATL killing at the courthouse must have been scary! I called a good friend of mine who told me that her kid's schools went to lock down.. I go at least once a year to see her since I moved out of ATL- her DH died of cancer a few years ago and she is raising two adopted children on her own- a very dear friend of mine (and I adored her husband- wonderful man).

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Wed, 03-16-2005 - 12:03pm

Hi Laura,

I wish you didn't have to worry, it really stinks. I wish there was something we could do to make it go away. BUT you're almost there....just a few short weeks away to go over this biggest hurdle.

I've had all the same tests, however I think we'll revisit some of them again and retest. There *might* be something new in the fetal genetic testing since I never got conclusive results before. I didn't ask if he tested me for NK cells but that's so controversial I'm not sure what his thoughts are on it, or whether it makes sense for me since I was able to carry my DD. I will have a list of questions for him next Weds. I won't get the genetic testing results until April.

I'm still having pain with each BM, same as last year. I hate it. I'm feeling a bit better though overall.

Yes, that shooting was very sad. So senseless..... Gosh, how very sad for your friend. I've lost some very special people to cancer and have had a cancer scare myself. It's such a horrible disease.

When do you get your test results back? Of course I will be here. I'm very excited for you. You deserve this baby. I know how you feel and if there's anything I can do to help, I want to.

As far as testing...that's tricky. I wasn't that worried about it because I didn't really want/care to know definitively if there was anything wrong. I would have been satisfied with the 2D ultrasound. BUT this is such a personal matter. It's not an easy decision and it comes down to what's most important to YOU and that's all that matters. I just found out that a friend of mine had the CVS and then decided to have the amnio, not sure why, but it all worked out for her and she didn't have any problems from either test.

Please keep me posted. It makes me feel good to see your progress.

Healthy baby vibes being sent your way......>>>>

Karen

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Wed, 03-16-2005 - 2:03pm

Hi Karen,

I'm glad you're feeling better but sorry about the pain.. that sounds so internal (given the impact was internal)- it's nerve wrecking.. Now to wait for AF.. which took me I think 5 weeks last time.. seemed like forever.

No news yet.. I don't know if the tests will come back this afternoon (I called and left a message for the nurse) since I had both done yesterday around noon- I think tomorrow for sure.. I had to ask them to call me with results since they normally don't (unless something shows up).

I am waiting to also ask my OB a few questions (a few MORE questions)- I forgot to mention the huge headaches I am getting- i know it;s normal but I really don't get headaches much and these HURT.. The next one - he probably won't remember my specific ultrasound but at the time I was 8w3d in the am.. He did a close up of the baby and I saw the same teddy bear like arms as a few days before, we zoomed in and saw the umbilical cord (that was new or something highlighted to me) at first the OB thought it was his/her legs and then said- no - def. umbilical cord.. I kept asking him if he saw anything that was not normal and he said it was all normal and "he wouldn't lie to me"..
BUT.. here is my new freak out issue.. the legs? I mean, the baby now is blobby in a way.. it;s getting defined- but the little arms are visible.. the leg buds were not as visible.. infact, i don;t really see much of an indication of legs.. I read that at 8weeks legs and arms were developed though arms more.

You know- I should just take a sleeping pill and wake up for the key milestone dates and then join the living again.. that's kind of how I feel.. I'm just dazed .. waiting.. waiting..

Which part of ATL do you live in? yes, I don't know how my friend does it- she is very strong.. he had suffered through a few bouts of cancer - it left them no choice to have children on their own (or through him).. I also had that same cancer scare (the molar? or something else)..

I didn't have the NK cells tested either- my RE also felt it was contraversial and gave me the name of Drs in the area that believed in that theory.. I basically went through this huge list of items from many sites I had read- and he nixed a few like that one.

I'll write back if they call with any update.. where are the legs?

hugs, Laura

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Wed, 03-16-2005 - 2:49pm

Are they giving you the higher density u/s since you can see that much definition? I never saw that much at 8 wks, even with me DD. I didn't see alot of movement and legs and arms until 10 wks.

Yeah, I'm wondering if the pain is from my Endo. I'll talk with my RE next week about that.

Funny about the sleeping pill.....before I got pg this last time I kept saying I wished I could just wake up and be 6 mns pg. I hate the first 15 weeks. I feel lousy, I'm stressed, worried and at the Dr's every week. I can't not think about being pg becuase I'm taking 8 pills of progesterone a day, blood tests twice a week etc... IT ROTS....as my sister would say.

I live up in Cumming, 35 miles north of ATL. We moved here from San Francisco, but I'm originally from Mass. I miss the northeast and SF. I loved living in SF but it was far from my family and the cost was ridiculous. I x-fered here for my job. I left my job after my DD was born but went back part-time as a contractor in 2002. So now I work 3 days + or - hrs and my DD is only at preschool 3 days. I just couldn't handle the full-time work, it was too hard with the job I had. I wanted to nurse one year and they wanted me to travel....nursing won.

I like it here ok but I'm not thrilled with being here. I would much rather be closer to the ocean. I would rather live in a little less conservative area as well....but it's our home for the time being.

My cancer scare was cervical and then I've had a number of breast tumors. They get worse after each m/c. I see a Breast specialist every 6 months. I've had surgical and needle biopsies but thankfully all have been and stayed benign. I had pre-cancerous cells in my cervix but got rid of them in 91' and nothing has come back....thank god. My family has ALOT of cancer in it. I try not to think about it but I do have to be careful and not let anything slide.

Well hope all tests come back blissfully normal.

talk soon...Karen