DH and I decided pre-pregnancy that we were going to wait until testing was done before we told everyone. Since we both have a good feeling everything's fine, we're starting to spill the beans. I was wondering what everyone's doing, tell or not tell? :)
our rule this time (and the last time too) has been to tell immediate family (mothers, fathers, brothers and sisters).
this time i also had to tell my boss right away b/c i had to get out of a trip to moscow at 11 weeks. and we ended up telling my friends from grad school over labor day. well they guessed really when i did not drink and would not ride any of the rides at cedar point ;)
hopefully we will have good news to share with the rest of our worlds in 3 weeks. i am sure some of my other co-workers have an inkling. i have not been feeling well at all....
As an extremely slighted recurrent m/c, we only told my 2 best friends and the only reason I told them was because the last 2 times I didn't tell them, but ended up telling them after I had the m/c. So, I figured that since I'm going to tell them anyway, I might as well tell them right away. But I'm not telling anyone else, not parents, siblings or anyone until at least 20 weeks.
I really think it has more to do with comfort level than anything else. For us, our parents are not the most supportive about this. They're not bad or anything, they just don't understand why on earth we would possibly want more children. Both of our mothers have had an abortion in between us and our younger brothers, so you can see how they wouldn't understand why I'm so upset. Plus my mother gets really freaky and I just can't take that right now.
I know exactly what you mean!! So since we've been telling people we decided to tell my mom. Well she was happy but I don't know if it's the pregnancy and I'm being too sensitive but she said some things I was upset about. She just drained the joy out of me and now I'm upset that I told her. She's got me second guessing myself and all this. You know how I said how excited I am and how I have a good feeling about the pregnancy? Well she's like well you know what happened last time I think it's too soon for you to be pregnant again, I just hope everything is ok. First, that's the last thing I want to hear and anyway they specifically told us that what happened to our little baby boy was a fluke it wasn't like we have a major problem and we're taking huge chances! It's like a 2% chance that it would happen again. Is it just me or what! I'm just so upset over this.
We waited until close to 8w to tell family - but it just lucked out that we were visiting a bunch of them around that time, so it was easy to wait. We didn't tell beyond our immediate friends and family until 12w - even then it was weird! I felt like it was the most special news to just go about sharing without cause for concern.
We have told my parents, DH's Mom. Our sister and brothers and one of DH's Step-brother and his wife, because they are our best friends! We have told our close friends! I have told my boss,
I know what you mean about slowly leaking. I've told my best friends, my boss, my mom. I trust them all with the secret. My Dh told his brother and sister and we're telling his favorite aunt. (his mom passed and his father is MIA). I just know everything is fine even though my mom has mixed feelings about the pregnancy. :(
I appreciate this post. I have also been a little paranoid this time. I hate that my pregnancy "innocence" is gone this time. But I guess that's the way it is. It took me 4 days to even tell DH about the + HPT. And even then, I didn't really tell. He guessed. Other than him (and you girls) I've told one best girlfriend. That's it. I am planning on waiting until at least 8 weeks or so. I haven't even called the doctor yet. I'm not planning on doing that until around 8 weeks either. I have a really good feeling about this one, despite my hesitation. I have more symptoms than I ever did with my m/c pg. Hang in there, girls. We can make it!
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our rule this time (and the last time too) has been to tell immediate family (mothers, fathers, brothers and sisters).
this time i also had to tell my boss right away b/c i had to get out of a trip to moscow at 11 weeks. and we ended up telling my friends from grad school over labor day. well they guessed really when i did not drink and would not ride any of the rides at cedar point ;)
hopefully we will have good news to share with the rest of our worlds in 3 weeks. i am sure some of my other co-workers have an inkling. i have not been feeling well at all....
As an extremely slighted recurrent m/c, we only told my 2 best friends and the only reason I told them was because the last 2 times I didn't tell them, but ended up telling them after I had the m/c. So, I figured that since I'm going to tell them anyway, I might as well tell them right away. But I'm not telling anyone else, not parents, siblings or anyone until at least 20 weeks.
I really think it has more to do with comfort level than anything else. For us, our parents are not the most supportive about this. They're not bad or anything, they just don't understand why on earth we would possibly want more children. Both of our mothers have had an abortion in between us and our younger brothers, so you can see how they wouldn't understand why I'm so upset. Plus my mother gets really freaky and I just can't take that right now.
Alla
Alla,
I know exactly what you mean!! So since we've been telling people we decided to tell my mom. Well she was happy but I don't know if it's the pregnancy and I'm being too sensitive but she said some things I was upset about. She just drained the joy out of me and now I'm upset that I told her. She's got me second guessing myself and all this. You know how I said how excited I am and how I have a good feeling about the pregnancy? Well she's like well you know what happened last time I think it's too soon for you to be pregnant again, I just hope everything is ok. First, that's the last thing I want to hear and anyway they specifically told us that what happened to our little baby boy was a fluke it wasn't like we have a major problem and we're taking huge chances! It's like a 2% chance that it would happen again. Is it just me or what! I'm just so upset over this.
Operation Wee One is in Effect!
We have told my parents, DH's Mom. Our sister and brothers and one of DH's Step-brother and his wife, because they are our best friends! We have told our close friends! I have told my boss,
Jai,
It is hard to keep it quiet when you want to be a mommy so bad and are excited about being a mommy! You just want to shout it out to the world!
I appreciate this post. I have also been a little paranoid this time. I hate that my pregnancy "innocence" is gone this time. But I guess that's the way it is. It took me 4 days to even tell DH about the + HPT. And even then, I didn't really tell. He guessed. Other than him (and you girls) I've told one best girlfriend. That's it. I am planning on waiting until at least 8 weeks or so. I haven't even called the doctor yet. I'm not planning on doing that until around 8 weeks either. I have a really good feeling about this one, despite my hesitation. I have more symptoms than I ever did with my m/c pg. Hang in there, girls. We can make it!
Tristin
Ethan 5/17/02
~angel~ 4/30/05
EDD 5/29/06
Tristin
love my boys
DH&nb
We waited and told everyone just last week at 13 weeks.
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