Anyone was else just terrified?

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Registered: 02-09-2006
Anyone was else just terrified?
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Thu, 02-16-2006 - 4:48pm

Please tell me I'm not alone! This is my fifth pregnancy....and I can't concentrate on anything else. I've had two losses, both right at 12 weeks - after seeing the heartbeat. I have my first ultrasound next Wednesday to date the pregnancy and as excited as I am, I'm also terrified. I keep having dreams that we have a boy so that's been reassuring....and of course there's the morning sickness, extremely sore bb's, not to mention the belly I'm already sporting....but I just can't help being scared. All those negative what if's keep creeping into my mind and I can't make them go away. I wasn't even expecting this pregnancy but have already become so attached and excited in just the two weeks that we've known. I just couldn't go through the pain again. Anyone else having these same thoughts? How do you cope?
TIA

Courtney

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Registered: 04-03-2005
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 6:45pm
I was/have been scared and concerned though much of my pg and I'm 33 weeks now. I still get panicked when the baby goes through a quiet spurt. I think that the loss(es) that one experiences make you reconsider how you feel about pregnancy and it also alerts you to the possibilities. I have just decided to take the pg one day at a time. After each appointment I feel a bit better. Also, I try to remind myself that being scared doesn't help the baby. One thing that really has helped is having a doppler. I know the jury is still out as to whether or not they are safe but I figure that if I am calm then the baby is better off. I wish you a happy and healthy pg!!
New Siggy... January 2009
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Registered: 10-26-2005
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 9:43am

Yes, I had 2 m/c's prior to this pregnancy. It was especially difficult at first. I think I sort of put it out of my mind and refused to consider that this pregnancy might work out until I had my first u/s. Even after then I was still afraid something would go wrong. I will be 13 weeks tomorrow and have had 2 more u/s's that showed a bouncing, seemingly healthy baby. I think in time you will start to feel more positive as you pass milestones. Being that your m/c's were around 12 weeks it may take you a bit longer to get there. I can't tell you how I have coped because I don't know. I just want you to know you are definitely not alone.

Cindy

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Registered: 01-25-2005
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 11:13am

Courtney,

I'm 6 weeks along and I know
exactly how you feel. I'm
probably not coping with it the
best way, but I'm just trying
to remain as detached from this
pregnancy as possible. Instead
of planning the way, that I
did with my last pregnancy,
(I m/c at 17 weeks)I'm simply
taking a wait and see approach.
This means I won't tell anyone
until I pass my milestone and
I won't purchase anything or make
plans until my third trimester.

Like I said, there are probably
better ways to cope, but this
works for me.

Good luck and I hope you have
H & H 9 months!

--Kim