2-3% - really?

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2-3% - really?
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 7:47pm

Hi, I will be 10 weeks tomorrow, and I still feel like I'm waiting on something bad to happen. When I had my ultrasound last week the doctor said that things look great and at this point the miscarraige rate would be less than 3%. Now this sounds really encouraging, right? Well I I've read so many of your stories with losses at 10 weeks, 11 weeks, and 12 weeks. There seem to be so many of you that had late first trimester losses that I just can't see how it's 2-3%. My husband says it's because women with those type of loses are more likely to come and post on boards like this. Do you guys think this is probably right? Or am I maybe just focusing on those cases, a combination of both? I'm so ready to feel like I'm over some sort of hill and enjoy already. My husband feel like we are because of the incredibly low rate the doctor gave. I just keep thinking, "well those 2-3% probably thought they were in the clear too.

Nikki

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 9:55pm

Nikki ~

I know how hard it can be not to worry, even after you pass all kinds of milestones. I definately think once you experience a loss you become more aware of all the other women who have also had losses, so it seems like there are more of them. Once you've been in that percentage of women who've lost a baby, it's hard to believe you won't be in that percentage again. Just take it one week at a time. I think as PAL's we may always worry about experiencing a kind of loss that we haven't experienced yet, you know? I have felt better about my pregnancy the further along I've gotten, but some anxiety is always there, even for a lot of women I know who have never lost a baby, we all want our pregnancies to turn out well. I hope you start to feel better about it as you get further along, try to concentrate on how well it's been going so far!

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:15pm

Yes it's true.

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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 11:48am

I looked all over the interent for info on this when I first became pregnant again after miscarrying Angel and I found that after you see a heartbeat, the chances of miscarrying drop significantly, but no percentages. My Dr also said that the most crucial weeks are from 6-9 and after than your chances of miscarrying go way down, so I say you're in a good place.


Congratulations on a good appt! and an active little peanut!!


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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 3:11pm

Nikki,
I am so grateful that you posted this. I hadn't heard about the 2-3% and I've been having similar doubts. This actually made me feel much better. Thank you!

Keely

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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 4:54pm
Your DH
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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 6:03pm

My doc gave me the 3% number at my appt at 7w 3d after seeing the hb.

Kathy- 

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Sat, 02-25-2006 - 7:40pm

Nikki, I think the reason why so many women think they are having a mc at 10w or later is bacause they actually had a missed mc. When I had my mc I was all the way to 11w but the baby had actually died at 8w and my body was still trying to hold on the the pg. I bet if you ask more about that you would be quit supprised how common that is. I had to end up having a d&c becuase the doctors said it could have continued for an unknown amount of time. SBV's I'm sure everything is going to be OK.

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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 1:30pm

Nikki,


I had a m/c at 12 weeks but the baby stopped growing at 9w2d and we did not see the HB at all during the pregnancy.

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Wed, 03-01-2006 - 11:15pm

Hi Nikki,


I know that you have been to the Dr recently and got some reassurance, but I wanted to post to you here too...


I think that you are having normal feelings, and I wish that I could tell you that your fear will go away but I cant :-( I think that it does get better but I dont think it ever completely goes away for us pals. In regard to the 2-3% thing....I do think that it is hard to feel assured when you have had a loss, however, I have read that the most common timeframe for m/c is before 8 or 9 weeks. Major development takes place during weeks 7 and 8. Considering your recent appt, being almost 11 weeks (I think that is where you are now??), and having the heartbeat and everything I think that you are in great shape. I know that reading everyones stories can be a blessing and a curse because sometimes it can make you aware of things you didnt know about, however, I would agree with some previous posters that many people who had losses at 10, 11, or 12 weeks, actually experienced their loss earlier, they just didnt know it. My situation was that I was almost in my 10th week when I found out, but my baby had actually died at 7 weeks. Some women miscarry without their body expelling the baby (a missed m/c) so although they were 10, 11, 12 weeks when the actual m/c takes place, the baby may have passed weeks earlier. I had an u/s around 9 1/2 weeks and my Dr said that being that far with a strong heart beat gives great promise. So I would say the same to you....I also think that your husband is right to some degree. I think women who have experienced loss are much more likely to reach out for support. Keep in mind that when you are on the message boards, although it seems like everyone has had a horrific experience, we represent a very small poplulation as a whole. There are hundreds, thousands of women who get pregnant and have perfect pregnancies with no problems...When I feel overwhelmed I try to remind myself of that. I know that being a PAL is so hard and we are all scared, but at least we have each other to lean on....Just try your best to think positive and know that you are in a good place right now....


HUGS!


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