Can't stop worrying

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Can't stop worrying
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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 8:51pm

I am 7 weeks, 6 days and I can't stop worrying! I have had 2 u/s and we saw hb at both and heard it at the 2nd. I'm not spotting or anything unusual, I am jsut still so scared.
I am trying to bond with the baby and trying to be happy because I feel very pregnant and am starting to bulge a little, but the fear keeps creeping up. I don't have another ultrasound until March 31st, really wish it was sooner, but I guess I can't get one every week! I just keep going from relaxed and happy to crazy worrying! My first m/c was a missed m/c (though I had earlier complications) found at 8 wks by u/s, and I had no idea (other than spotting). I guess that is what I am worried about happening this time around.

Just needed to vent. Thanks for reading. I hope after the next u/s I will calm down more and be able to fully enjoy this. I really want to get out there and shop and make definite plans, but I can't allow myself to do much of that yet. One long day at a time!!

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Jackie
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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 9:52pm

Jackie ~
I'm sorry you're feeling so anxious right now, the first couple months were definately the worst for me too. It helped me to just concentrate on one week at a time...I know they go by so slow, especially when you have to wait for a while between appts. It's also normal to feel extra anxious in the weeks around when you've had past losses.

But it sounds like your babe has looked good at both u/s's so far and you heard the heartbeat, that is a great sign! I hope you can find some comfort in that and that everything looks great at your next u/s!

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Thu, 03-16-2006 - 12:53am
I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I know how hard it is in between appointments. I'm 37 weeks now and I'm still nervous. I always feel great on the day of the appointment and then starting the next day I start feeling nervous again. The only thing that helps me is telling myself that being nervous doesn't help the baby so I try to be positive to give him the best environment. I wish you an uneventful pregnancy and remember that the ladies on this board are here to support you. We have been through the loss and truly know how it feels!
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Thu, 03-16-2006 - 7:14am
It's so normal to feel scared like this. I had a missed miscarriage too, the baby died around 15 weeks, just after a visit to the docand we found at our 20 weeks routine u/s. So I know how terrified you feel. The only think that makes it better is when I think about the baby and that my nervousness must not be good for him/her. I guess we can control it, but can't make it go away. Try to focus on the good, everything looks good, the baby is growing and doing perfect and you have no complications. I am sending tons of hugs yor way.
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Thu, 03-16-2006 - 8:18am

Jackie -

I could have written your post I am 7W 3D today. I had an u/s on Monday and everything looked great. My RE even graduated me to the OB. But I cannot help but worry. My next appt. is not until 3/28. I was debating calling the RE or OB to see if they could get me in next week just for a check...But my DH really does not want me to do that. He says it stresses him out everytime there is an appt. I, however, would go everyday if I were allowed. But like you said I really do not need weekly u/s. Like you I have had no spotting or cramping or anything bad. I have had 5 losses but 3 of them were at 6 weeks. The other 2 were later but there were signs from the start that things were not going well. Things look better now that ever before. I wish there were a better way to survive this 1st trimester. I am tired and feeling slightly nauseous but really my symptoms are minimal.

I do not have any words of wisdom as I am looking for the same re-assurance. I guess all we can do is take it one day at a time. And pray for the best. Remember, the odds are in our favor!

Hang in there,
Meg

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Thu, 03-16-2006 - 11:29am

Jackie......wish that I had a magic wand to let you know it is all going to be okay.

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Thu, 03-16-2006 - 5:56pm
I'm sorry it's so scary for you :(

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Thu, 03-16-2006 - 6:27pm

Hang in there! I can totally relate. I'll be 13 weeks tomorrow, and I still can't stop worrying. I've actually taken comfort in the fact that there is nothing I can do about this. I just tell myself if it's gonna happen it's gonna happen and I have little to do with it. When I get to worrying I try to remind myself that worrying won't change a thing. I know, easier said than done. I worry too, but I just happen to be having a good day so thought I try to pass it on.

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