Just having a hard time bonding
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| Wed, 05-17-2006 - 2:43pm |
I am a bit angry at myself. I just dont bond with this baby like I have all the other times I have been pregnant. I use to be hungry and ask the little bean what he wanted to eat or just say stupid stuff like why are you making your mommy so tired all the time and now this time I just dont. I know I am protecting myself I just dont think I could even survive another m/c emotionally. I was wondering if anyone else has felt this way being a PAL? I am hoping that after the Dr. appt tomorrow I will feel a little better but to tell you the truth, seeing a heartbeat really doesnt matter. I saw it(145) three times in fact and still m/c. I was also told everything looked great that didnt matter either. UGH I hate feeling this way please tell me I am not alone. I just wish I could go to sleep and wake up and I am 12 weeks. Thanks for listening
Steph




Steph,
I know that I am not pregnant right now, but I can tell you that with this last pregnancy I did the same exact thing.
Don't worry, you're definitely not alone.
CL - Twil
Hi Steph
I think it is normal - especially after a couple of losses. I would expect you to start feeling a bit more connected once your milestones are passed. You have to believe you are having this baby before you have a real relationship.
Shannon
Don't be hard on yourself Stephanie. Everyone deals and tries to protect themselves differently. If this is what helps you right now then it's fine. You WILL bond with this little one and I bet it'll end up a complete mama's boy/girl!!! So don't worry, your baby knows you love him/her!!!
Oh and BTW...12 wks will be here before you even know it!
I think i can totally relate to what you are feeling. The first preg, with DD, I was totally carefree and happy from the get-go, and now (at 12 w 1 d) I am just cautious. BUT I make sure I wrap my hands over my belly every night and say "I love you, little one" because I want her/him to feel this either way (good or bad)...
When will we feel secure? Probably never. But love is always there to give. And your worry IS a form of love!
Hang in there, and don't feel too bad about your totally normal response.
Take care,
Lara
Steph,
I felt exactly what you are feeling with this pg.
Hi, Steph--
I think everyone has already said it very well.