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Have you told anyone yet?
| Tue, 09-26-2006 - 9:55pm |
I am just wondering when people begin telling people that they are pregnant again after a miscarriage. Is there a right or wrong time? I have heard many times that people try to wait until week 12 but I am not sure if I can wait that long. With my DD we called our families and all of our close friends the same day that we found out. Then with the last pregnancy I wanted to tell everyone a very unique way so I had to put it off for a little while. Now I am trying to figure out how I want to approach it this time. So have you all told your family and friends yet? If so when did you tell them? If not when do you plan too? Do you have a certain plan on how your going to tell them?





Tina,
Well I guess when you get to the point where I have been of having many miscarriages it is not telling people that get them excited it is the updates that gets them excited.
I told my friends after the fourth loss that I would not come out and say that we were PG, but that I would not deny it either. So my friends just asked and I said that I am not at liberty to say! It was great becuase they were able to support me, but I did not have to admit anything.
I told my mom because I wanted her to go to the first appointment with me because Chris could not, and then my SIL told Chris's dad and step mom and the rest of the family. Chris's real sister found out from a friend at her work that knows my other SIL. Now here is the kicker!! My mother in-law the one that I love and adore still does not know!! I hate to tell her because I really hate how she emails me every day asking in detail how I am feeling and stuff. I have told her that bothers me because it makes me think about stuff that I am trying to not focus on, but she still does it. So I am going to a play with her on the 7th and I will tell her then!
Other than that I will tell my work at 13 weeks!
I hope you figure out what is best for you!
Hugs,
Jenn
Hi Tina,
I told my Mom and Dad right away mainly because I needed emotional support from my Mom during those first scarey weeks.
Pretty much the same here as with the others.
Let me know how you plan to tell.
Natalie
Hey Tina....
It was really hard not to tell people, both Rob and I agreed we would wait until we saw the heartbeat. I couldn't wait. I told a very close cousin, I just needed someone to support me and help me in any way that they could. I soon found out Rob told another one of his cousins because he needed that support as well without worring me. (I thought that was really cute!) Once we have our u/s around week 7 or 8 we went ahead and told our parents and before we know our whole family knew. I also told my boss pretty much right away because I wasn't sure what the doctor would want me to do and I didn't want her to feel like I was 'skiping' out of work.
I also think it's a decision you and your DH thinking about and figure out what works best for you.
Good luck
Crystal
Tina,
I wanted to be sure to have a soft place to fall, if indeed I need to fall again.
Hi Tina,
I told my sister the day
Adina
The first people I told were my good friends at TTCAM.