Have you told anyone yet?

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Have you told anyone yet?
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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 9:55pm
I am just wondering when people begin telling people that they are pregnant again after a miscarriage. Is there a right or wrong time? I have heard many times that people try to wait until week 12 but I am not sure if I can wait that long. With my DD we called our families and all of our close friends the same day that we found out. Then with the last pregnancy I wanted to tell everyone a very unique way so I had to put it off for a little while. Now I am trying to figure out how I want to approach it this time. So have you all told your family and friends yet? If so when did you tell them? If not when do you plan too? Do you have a certain plan on how your going to tell them?

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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 8:54am
DH and I told our parents about a week after we found out, and didn't tell anyone else until we had the 1st u/s at 6w1d.
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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 9:41am

Tina,


Well I guess when you get to the point where I have been of having many miscarriages it is not telling people that get them excited it is the updates that gets them excited.


I told my friends after the fourth loss that I would not come out and say that we were PG, but that I would not deny it either. So my friends just asked and I said that I am not at liberty to say! It was great becuase they were able to support me, but I did not have to admit anything.


I told my mom because I wanted her to go to the first appointment with me because Chris could not, and then my SIL told Chris's dad and step mom and the rest of the family. Chris's real sister found out from a friend at her work that knows my other SIL. Now here is the kicker!! My mother in-law the one that I love and adore still does not know!! I hate to tell her because I really hate how she emails me every day asking in detail how I am feeling and stuff. I have told her that bothers me because it makes me think about stuff that I am trying to not focus on, but she still does it. So I am going to a play with her on the 7th and I will tell her then!


Other than that I will tell my work at 13 weeks!


I hope you figure out what is best for you!


Hugs,


Jenn

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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 9:49am

Hi Tina,


I told my Mom and Dad right away mainly because I needed emotional support from my Mom during those first scarey weeks.

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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 10:28am
Hi well I told my in-laws like 10 mins after I found out. My husband was on his way home I called him on his cell and said well do you want a boy or a girl and I met him at the door with the stick. He knew I was testing. We than hopped in the truck and drove staight to his parents house we scared them to death because it was like 2:00 in the afternoon dh was still suppose to be at work. (they have a family buisness) So when they opened the door they were scared and said what is going on? They thought maybe something was terribly wrong. I just started shaking and crying and held up my pg test and said I am pregnant. They have been through it all with us. When we lost shane, my mc, through all the ivf everything. They also had a very hard time getting pg it took them 7 years before they had my dh's older brother. They had 5 mc's.So they have been so very supportive to us. I then came home and called my brother and my sister. Then over the next few weeks I told my work and friends. Pretty much almost eveyone knows still some friends to tell. I will be 8 weeks this friday.
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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 10:31am

Pretty much the same here as with the others.

 
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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 1:30pm
Hey Tina cute new pic of the family how sweet. So far this time around we have just told our parents and my sister. After we saw the heart beat on ultrasound at six weeks I told my best friend and my DH told his best friend. That's it though no one knows but them and it has been very hard to hold it in. I feel though it's for the best and will feel better knowing that I waited until I felt 100% ready to let the world know. I have found a great way to tell the whole family though. My Dh has 10 siblings 8 of which all live near us. So i got a shirt for my DD that is pink and in black letters says on the front "I going to be a Big Sister." It has a cute little girl face on it too that kinda looks like my DD. When the time is right we will have her wear it on Friday night when we all get together to hang out. We won't say anything just have her walk in and wait until someone notices. It will be really cute i think. I got the shirt from Cafepress.com it's a great site. Anyway, we are looking forward to letting the world know about our baby. Plus we found out a few weeks ago that my DH and his wife are having that 2nd in April also. That will be lots of fun to share our pregnancy together.
Let me know how you plan to tell.
Natalie
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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 1:56pm

Hey Tina....

It was really hard not to tell people, both Rob and I agreed we would wait until we saw the heartbeat. I couldn't wait. I told a very close cousin, I just needed someone to support me and help me in any way that they could. I soon found out Rob told another one of his cousins because he needed that support as well without worring me. (I thought that was really cute!) Once we have our u/s around week 7 or 8 we went ahead and told our parents and before we know our whole family knew. I also told my boss pretty much right away because I wasn't sure what the doctor would want me to do and I didn't want her to feel like I was 'skiping' out of work.

I also think it's a decision you and your DH thinking about and figure out what works best for you.

Good luck

Crystal

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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 2:47pm

Tina,


I wanted to be sure to have a soft place to fall, if indeed I need to fall again.

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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 3:53pm

Hi Tina,


I told my sister the day

Adina

 

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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 4:18pm

The first people I told were my good friends at TTCAM.

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