June '07 EC--won't go again!

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June '07 EC--won't go again!
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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 12:13pm

Well, I have just experienced my first and last visit to the June '07 EC.

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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 2:19pm

You did a good job replying. It's ok to get mad, I don't blame you at all. Tina (tina_n_madison) also posted a great reaction to the person's post. I give her props too for reminding this selfish woman that there are worse things in life then missing a few beers and nights out on the town.


***HUGS*** there are some really nice people over there....sorry you found one of the doofus's that are on the boards.


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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 2:20pm

I never went back to my Sept'06 board after some nutjob posted a "poll" on if Catholicism was brainwashing...... it was the most absurb thing I ever saw and the responses, just as bad from some immature, silly girls

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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 2:43pm
Katie,
I completely agree with you on the June '07 EC!!!!!! I wrote a similar post to yours on the Miscarriage Support board not even a month ago. At the time I visited there were posts including one about a girl considering whether to get an abortion because she and her dh were having money problems (seriously?!?), and another complaining because she didn't want to gain weight.
I saw that post you are quoting this weekend as well. I visit every now and then but I only reply to posts that I feel are even worth my time. I guess there's a lot of girls on that board that are just in a very differrent place than we are. It's sad actually.
Amanda
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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 2:58pm

Hey, I am sorry you found that post so upsetting. Every day on these boards I come across a post that I find offensive or weird or just different in some way but I don't think its worth getting too stressed about it. There are a lot of people who feel differently to me on the Dec EC board (they are some desperate to have C-sections or deliver at 34 weeks??) and yet there are also very cool women who appreciate where I am coming from. I hope you manage to find the community that suits YOU (here at PAL or over there or both).

Hoenstly, I didn't find the post you put up so offensive. Sure, she doesn't get what we have been through or feel totally blessed to be pregnant but neither would I have felt totally cool if I was pregnant in my early 20s, didn't have the love and financial support I now do or in countless other circumstances. I think we all bring what we are to pregnancy, and what we ARE is just a progression from our personal histories and stories. Who am I to judge if drinks with the girls on Friday gets her through the week?

Even here - now I am expecting a baby with a serious birth defect - I find many of my beloved PAL sisters are on another planet. Do I take offence and post on Heart Defects about how your life experiences differ to mine? How having a baby at 35 weeks could now be a death sentence and go nutty? I try not to ;)

So, as always in this virtual space I advocate a few deep breaths and moving on to the next post without loss of tears or snorts of indignation. All those differences just help us treasure the particular experience that is our own.

Shannon




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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 3:08pm

Thank you for that insight, Shannon.

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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 3:38pm

Hey Katie
Thanks for the good thoughts. I am feeling hopeful too and will post more after our next round of consults later this month.

I know how it is when posts get to you - and obviously most people on this board have had some kind of tough time with the EC - we've all been there. Perhaps when you are out of the 1T you will find them more interesting and supportive. However stressed I am, I always find that there are situations on the EC which make me feel "lucky" and when I am worried there have always been others to offer encouragement and support.

2T 2T 2T!

Shannon



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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 4:02pm

I saw that too and didn't respond (couldn't respond). I'm sorry it upset you so much.


We all know that that girl (I say girl because I'm guessing she is young) is very fortunate and should be thanking God for her precious gift. That being said - a lot of women take pregnancy for granted. Most women never had to experience a loss or infertility (or both in most of our cases) so we can't expect them to understand. We just have to take comfort in our PAL sisters and give each other strenght.


There are many sweet ladies on the June EC - and a few that just aren't ready to be there and need to complain about it.


It is so hard to see that (or the girl who was considering abortion, or the women who still smoke, etc) but God has a plan for all of us.


I spend most of my time here too :)


Take care,


Melissa


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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 4:38pm

Ugh, so people are just so clueless and selfish. Thanks for sticking up for all of us Katie. It's people like this that make me avoid my EC as well.

Tasha

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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 7:08pm

Katie ~

You said it so much better than I would've! I'd be kicked off ivillage lol.

I hav enot visited my EC. I did when iw as expecting DD#2. I quit when a woman came on there complaining that everyone around her kept telling her to quit smoking and she wouldn't. And other women agreed! There were probably 8 or 9 heavy smokers on that EC. That was my 5th pregnancy, with one live birth and three losses, so I took that really hard. I never went back and have no plans to.

Good job being so eloquent. You put her in her place in the nicest way possible. I hope it changes some women's outlook on things. Wait till it happens to them (And odds are it will, someday) they will remember you and think "Oh my God, how could I have been so insensitive!?"

~Rose
DD 6/4/01
DD 8/18/04
9 angels in heaven
"Our Miracle" due 7/28/07

   
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Tue, 11-21-2006 - 8:11am

I'm also on the June EC board and I was astounded at the rediculous things this girl had to say.

Ann
Christopher and Tyler 5.8.07