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| Mon, 01-15-2007 - 11:50am |
Hi Everyone,
How is everyone coping with their first trimester?
I'm struggling....I m/c in Dec at 8 weeks and I just found out last week that I am pregnant again. Of course I'm happy. But, I'm very skeptical. I'm afraid to be happy and dream about the future. I'm only 4 weeks, so it's still very very early, and I'm just waiting for something bad to happen.
My dr did bloodwork on Thurs and a repeat today to check my levels. I really hope that everything is as it should be. I'm not sure when I'll get the results...hopefully in the next couple days. And I keep taking hpt tests because I'm not confident. Also, for this pregnancy, I don't feel pregnant at all. Except for one symptom which is what made me test. I've been getting headaches and feel dizzy in the afternoons. Besides that I feel fine. No sore bb's, no m/s, no fatigue...nothing. With my last pregnancy, I felt everything before my period was even late. I'm hoping that lack of symptoms is not a bad thing.
So, how do you girls do it? I want this baby so badly, and I'm so scared of being disappointed again.

Pray, pray, and pray!
Hey Sweetie,
Yes, I agree with Jenn that what you are feeling is what we ALL have felt.
thanks everyone! that really helps. I have a feeling that I'll feel better once we get past the point where we lost our last baby. At least I hope I do!!! I really hope I can enjoy this pregnancy.
On a side note, got a call from the nurse with my beta numbers from Thurs. I was around 10/11dpo and my hcg was 54 and my progesterone was 22.9. They said that was good. Let's hope the results from today show a healthy increase!!
thanks again for your kind words!
As the other ladies said, what you're feeling is completely normal.
I don't even know how I'm doing it to be perfectly honest. I just pray everyday that God protect the life of my baby, but I also pray that he give me the strength to deal with another m/c if necessary. I have good days and I have bad days. Those first few weeks were really stressful for me. Every little cramp or backache made me panic. I even started spotting at 7 weeks and I was convinced that was the end, but here I am! The further along I get in my pregnancy, the more comfortable I get. But I keep doubting myself as to whether I should let myself get comfortable or not. But I've decided that regardless the outcome, I'm going to enjoy my baby every single day that I have it with me, be it for a few more weeks or the rest of my life!
As far as symptoms, remember that every pregnancy is different and most pregnancy symptoms don't get into full swing until about week 6 and then peak between weeks 8 and 10.
This board has really been a life saver for me. We are just surrounded by so many other women who are going through the same emotions, doubts and fears. It helps me feel less alone. I hope you find some sense of peace and reassurance here.
*Faith
EDD 8/18/07
I feel sick 24/7, nothing makes me feel better, I feel sick when I eat, I feel sick when I don't eat, I am so fatigued all the time. I keep getting reminded of that song "I'm sick and tired of always being sick and tired"(I think it was by Anastasia??). I swear she was singing about being pregnant!!! It's weird though, I want to feel good again, but I also know if I suddenly was to feel better again it would totally stress me out!!
I had my mc at 9 weeks, and I spotted for about 3 weeks prior to that, this time around no spotting thus far, so I am starting to feel quietly confident that things are going the right way this time, I have not had an US yet, but I did with the pg that I lost and saw a heartbeat at 7 weeks, yet still m/ced, so for me that would be no reassurance. I am just trying to get past the 1st Trimester, then I think I will feel like I will be having a baby in August, until then I feel like it could still go either way.
Sorry this probably wasn't a very encouraging post, but just try to think happy thoughts, (In my case I tried not to think about it at all), and know that every pg is different. I have had two pregnancies with no complications which resulted in two gorgeous kids, and one mc, and now I'm pg again and all my pgs have been different, though I have to say the morning sickness(or all day sickness really) with this one has been the worst!
Sending positive, worry free vibes your way, Emma
I think that we can all relate to how you are feeling. I was terrified for the first 12 weeks of this pregnancy, analyzing every feeling, checking the toilet paper every time. I experienced no morning sickness, just some tender breasts and fatigue so I of course thought that was a bad sign as well. After our first ultrasound at 12 weeks (which is when we found out last time that the baby had passed weeks prior) I really calmed down and started to trust in this pregnancy. It has not always been easy, I had a relapse of fear after some preterm labour at 27 weeks, but things have calmed down and so have I. I am really trying to enjoy the last 8 weeks, I know that this time with her inside me will soon be over and I really want to cherish this last bit.
I know that it is not easy but this board can be a great help if you are having dark days - I have relied on the help and support of these incredible women many times and it has definitely helped me through.