When to tell friends & family?
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| Mon, 04-02-2007 - 2:10pm |
I can't decide when to start telling people about this pregnancy. I feel like once people know, it will feel more "real" and I might start letting myself get excited about it. But it is still so early (5w5d) that I'm also a little afraid of jinxing it.
I'm going to be traveling with my parents and staying with my whole family on Friday for Easter weekend, and I know everyone will think it's odd that I'm more tired than usual, not drinking, etc... and I am dying to tell them. But is it too early? I can't decide.
BTW, with the one I lost last summer (very early, around 5-6 weeks), I had already told just my parents and my sister, but miscarried a few days later, before I had a chance to tell anyone else. With my first pg (DD) I told EVERYBODY within a week after my BFP, because I was too excited to contain the good news!
HELP?? Thanks,
~Meredith

When to tell family and friends is always a tough call Meredith.
With my DS, we waited until 13 weeks to announce it to the family. I had 2 m/cs before that. I had told my mom and close friends as soon as I found out though.
This pregnancy, I told people after we saw the heartbeat, around 8 weeks.
Its really depends on what you want. With my family, I know that if I m/c, my mother would break the news to everyone for me. That was hard with my m/c, telling evryone the bad news.
Goo luck in whatever you decide.
Once I made it past where we m/c'd before, we told our parents. One part was because my inlaws figured it out as soon as I wasn't drinking when they came to visit.
I have told a few friends. We hadn't told anyone last time, and that I think made telling people about the m/c even harder. But, it is all up to you. We're not telling the bulk of everyone until 12 weeks.
Meredith,
I have wondered about this too, but my MIL and SIL went through my m/c with me (SIL had just m/c'd then too) so I've already told them. I'm 6w5d. I will tell my family and the rest of the inlaws after my appointment on Friday, if it goes well of course. I think it's a good omen that it's Good Friday so hopefully it does. I'll probably tell my closest friends in a week or 2 after that. I'm hoping to tell work really late, like 15-20 weeks if it just looks like I'm gaining wt and not obviously pg.
Good luck with whatever you decide!
Sue
Hi- I told my mom and best friend immediatly with this pregnancy and then gradually starting telling other close friends after 10weeks. It's still not public knowledge at work yet and we plan to tell my extended family on Easter (I'll be 15 weeks). I m/c'ed at 6 weeks last time and had told EVERYONE. So then had to tell everyone about the m/c. My work is really large so I had people a month after the m/c still congratulating me on the pregnancy- it was a horrible, drawn-out ordeal. I have really waited to tell this time around since I didn't want to repeat that. Ultimatly though, it's deciding what's right for you and who you are comfortable with knowing early on.
Best wishes for a healthy 9 months,
Davida
Hey,
this is such a personal decision.
My thoughts were that anyone who was supportive during my m/c would find out early. those who were not so supportive learned at 11-12 weeks. When I went through my m/c I needed so much support and I thought people would be more willing to be there for me if they were able to join in the joy of hearing we were pregnant again. At first we told our family and very closest friends and I'm happy we did. Not only did I think I'd need support if we were to lose this baby as well, but I ended up needing support during the first trimester as well. I was so scared, still am at times, and it was nice to be able to talk to a select few people during that time.
good luck with your decision. there is not a right answer. do whatever feels right to you.