Trying to hide it
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Trying to hide it
| Fri, 07-06-2007 - 10:05am |
Maybe I am the only one here who thinks this, but after multiple mc, both my husband and I want to keep the pg a secret until we hear the heartbeat. We both feel like we'd be jinxing things. I am only 4 weeks and 1 day along so we have got some time. Now onto our problem...we are social drinkers. Not every night but more so on the weekends and during get togethers. This weekend is my 10 year high school reunion (still not sure why I am going, but my bf says I have to). How in the world am I going to keep this a secret? I had a graduating class of 86 people so we all know each other well. But mostly I am concerned about our small group of friends that we hang out with. They are bound to notice. My mother has figured it out b/c I quit drinking. First off, this makes me sound like an alcoholic - I'm not but a glass or two of wine is normal for me. Second off I know it sounds petty, but it goes back to jinxing the whole pg. I couldn't stand the thought that 86 people know I am pg right now. What if it doesn't stick then I have to have 86 people talking about me and a mc. I am in a smaller town (size about 30,000 so not tiny but...) I hate the rumor mill. My neighbor just had triplets and although we saw them off to the hospital on Sat. it was my mom who found out they had them on Mon morning b/c she was at city hall and everybody was talking about it. Not that a mc is that amazing, but I hate the thought of the whole town talking about me. God am I paranoid or what. If anyones has any advice though please help. Sorry for writing such a long explanation...I talk too much.
How to I hide the fact that I am not drinking???
Ellen
How to I hide the fact that I am not drinking???
Ellen

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Oh Sweetie... First of all, CONGRATS on you're pregnancy.
Ellen,
I understand your fears and they are very validated.
Good luck. The diet excuse is good but then people will be watching your waistline way too closely (I live in a small town too).
:)
Dawn
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If the reunion has a bar where you go up and get drinks yourself, you and DH can take turns going up there when it is not crowded or people you don't know well aren't around and order tonic with lime or a virgin Bloody Mary or something for you - just ask the bartender to put it in the same type of glass as the other drinks (and not a soda glass). I did this at a wedding we went to with a bunch of friends and co-workers who ALL would have noticed if I wasn't drinking, and no one questioned it. If they have beer in dark or green bottles (and you drink beer), get one of those, pretend to take a few sips of it, then take it into the bathroom with you, dump it out and fill it with water. I did this at another function, and it worked pretty well. :-) Plus, once your friends have had a few, no one will notice anymore.
Or, if they know at all that you are thinking of getting pregnant (or trying), just use that as an excuse. Say you're just planning ahead and trying to do everything possible to help.
I don't blame you for not wanting hordes of people to know yet. I am 13 weeks and just now am telling co-workers, friends, etc., and it still makes me nervous.
If all else fails, you could always not go or have to leave early before the partying really starts, as a last resort.
Congratulations on your pregnancy! :-)
Kitty
I was in this same situation last weekend - we went out of town with friends and weren't ready to tell why I wasn't drinking, which would def. be noticed. All the people we were with knew about our m/c and that we're trying, so we just told them that I wasn't since I "could be pregnant" but we didn't know yet. If that's too much information to give out, I totally agree with the on medication excuse.
Congrats! and have fun at the party!
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I'd probably order 7-Up, and tell your friends etc that you're drinking 7&7 or 7 & Morgan. I understand not wanting to jinx it - we didn't want to tell people that soon either. Let us know how it goes.
Tasha
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