I have been wondering the same thing. I saw a HB at 7 weeks, and I felt better. The chance of m/c after a HB does go down. But with my last pg, I also saw a HB at 7.5 weeks, only to spot 2 weeks later. After another u/s, I found out I had a missed m/c and ended up with a D&C. So needless to say, I'm not making this official until 2nd Tri or until I can't hide it any longer.
I feel a previous loss "runied" me for this pg. I am not nearly excited as I was last time. I am so nervous about every little twitch and pain. Even after seeing a HB, I am waiting for the rug to be pulled out from underneath me. How negative, huh?? LOL. I just don't want to get hurt again.
That's a good question...and I'm hoping once I hear a heartbeat with this little one I can start relaxing. I was never able to relax my 1st pregnancy after my loss. 1st I was nervous there wouldn't be a heartbeat.....then I started gushing blood at 11 weeks and was sure the pregnancy was over......and I sort of walked around on eggshells until she was 6 months old and the highest risk for SIDS was gone...it was miserable. I'm REALLY hoping I don't go through that agin!!!!
Like Nicole said, it is so unfair that we have to be robbed of the experience of having worry free pregnancies. Honestly, I don't think I ever felt 100% ok with things, and that was really hard. Now that I have my baby, all the anxiety, doubt, and fear has disappered, and I feel like I'm back to my old self again.
I think you just really have to take it one day at a time. Stay busy. Some days will be better than others.
Hmmm, I think that I felt better after we had seen the HB twice. Then after reading about the dopplers I rented one until I could feel the baby move around everyday. I tried to keep extra ordinarily busy so that I had little time to sit and fret, because for me when I had down time I'd start to worry. At one point, my husband said that I needed to stop reading all of the sad posts because it would put me into a worry spiral. I tried to explain that it helped to know that I wasn't alone in my worry/stress/excitement, etc.
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Kristin,
I have been wondering the same thing. I saw a HB at 7 weeks, and I felt better. The chance of m/c after a HB does go down. But with my last pg, I also saw a HB at 7.5 weeks, only to spot 2 weeks later. After another u/s, I found out I had a missed m/c and ended up with a D&C. So needless to say, I'm not making this official until 2nd Tri or until I can't hide it any longer.
I feel a previous loss "runied" me for this pg. I am not nearly excited as I was last time. I am so nervous about every little twitch and pain. Even after seeing a HB, I am waiting for the rug to be pulled out from underneath me. How negative, huh?? LOL. I just don't want to get hurt again.
Hey Kristen!
Like Nicole said, it is so unfair that we have to be robbed of the experience of having worry free pregnancies. Honestly, I don't think I ever felt 100% ok with things, and that was really hard. Now that I have my baby, all the anxiety, doubt, and fear has disappered, and I feel like I'm back to my old self again.
I think you just really have to take it one day at a time. Stay busy. Some days will be better than others.
Love ya!!
Hmmm, I think that I felt better after we had seen the HB twice. Then after reading about the dopplers I rented one until I could feel the baby move around everyday. I tried to keep extra ordinarily busy so that I had little time to sit and fret, because for me when I had down time I'd start to worry. At one point, my husband said that I needed to stop reading all of the sad posts because it would put me into a worry spiral. I tried to explain that it helped to know that I wasn't alone in my worry/stress/excitement, etc.
Lots of hugs!
Rachel
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