UMMMMM....yeah.....not sure what to say....glad that all is well and that the baby is healthy...maybe that is what you need to focus on....I know that it took me a while to get excited and connect but I was terrified of loosing this pg later on so I kept my guard up longer than I should have and when I felt the excitement start to well I would put the brakes on....FOOLISH ME! I wasted a bunch of time with my baby! We didn't want to know the gender but Max has different ideas and he disclosed immediately during the u/s. I think you need to open the envelope and find out what you are having and perhaps that will make it more real. There may be other issues that are deeper than even you know...and perhaps it a
As I was reading your post I was thinking back to my pregnancy and remembering going to ultra sounds where my mom, Chris and best friend would be excited and crying. I on the other hand was sitting there cold stone faced and nothing but fear in my eyes! I knew what Matthew was and I was doing the nursery and everything, but still no bonding really. Then came when he was born and yet I still did not bond with him and I did not want to hold him or anything! I was so fearful that he would be taken away from me that I tried my hardest to not get close! I did get close and finally realized that I was dealing with more than I was letting on and I finally got some help! I am telling you all this so that you do let your doctor know what is going on, because I really wish I would have talked to him about this before hand and maybe my PPD would not have been so bad!
There is nothing at all wrong you with hon. I think its hard sometimes even when you aren't a pal to connect with that brief image....I can honestly say that for me, pregnancy is a worried time and a hard time and I often feel sort of disconnected until my babies are born and even then sometimes for a while after...not that i don't love them like crazy and want them like crazy but there is a lot that can go wrong during pregnancy and also its such a abstract thing when its just this thing inside you. I can tell you honestly i have not had a moment of feeling exited or even feeling like i am pregnant with this one (I am 8 weeks today). I want to but I can't. and i think it will be that way through this pregnancy mostly. It was hard enough before i had a miscarriage and now its much harder. There isn't anything wrong with you...men are just different. I think they are removed a little more than we are from the day to day of your body and worrying abut what is going on and so I think its easier for them to see something and react to it on a basic level... Don't worry you will love your baby i promise!
Ali
DS (5)
DS (3)
TTC #3 since 5/07 with low progesterone & LPD
on Prometrium
Miscarriage 6/07
11/26/07 - CD3 panel (normal), DH SA(normal)
12/14/07 - + HPT!!! :)
1/2/08 - first u/s b/c of bleeding - saw baby and sac and hb! but also a failing twin so hoping the ok baby is very sticky!
1/9/08 - 2nd u/s - baby looks good...HR 131..but other sac still the same.
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Oh sweetie, there is nothing wrong with you!
Jenny,
As I was reading your post I was thinking back to my pregnancy and remembering going to ultra sounds where my mom, Chris and best friend would be excited and crying. I on the other hand was sitting there cold stone faced and nothing but fear in my eyes! I knew what Matthew was and I was doing the nursery and everything, but still no bonding really. Then came when he was born and yet I still did not bond with him and I did not want to hold him or anything! I was so fearful that he would be taken away from me that I tried my hardest to not get close! I did get close and finally realized that I was dealing with more than I was letting on and I finally got some help! I am telling you all this so that you do let your doctor know what is going on, because I really wish I would have talked to him about this before hand and maybe my PPD would not have been so bad!
Hey Jenny,
Just wanted to lend some support and let you know it is okay.
All the best,
Kristin :o)
Hey girl,
You're going to be fine.
DS (5)
DS (3)
TTC #3 since 5/07 with low progesterone & LPD
on Prometrium
Miscarriage 6/07
11/26/07 - CD3 panel (normal), DH SA(normal)
12/14/07 - + HPT!!! :)
1/2/08 - first u/s b/c of bleeding - saw baby and sac and hb! but also a failing twin so hoping the ok baby is very sticky!
1/9/08 - 2nd u/s - baby looks good...HR 131..but other sac still the same.
1/17/08 - 3rd u/s
DS (5)
DS (3)
TTC #3 since 5/07 with low progesterone & LPD
on Prometrium
Miscarriage 6/07
11/26/07 - CD3 panel (normal), DH SA(normal)
12/14/07 - + HPT!!! :)
1/2/08 - first u/s b/c of bleeding - saw baby
Honestly, I don't even think you have to be a member of PAL to not feel connected, even though it probably contributes.
Jenny, I just wanted to offer you some hugs.
I am so glad all was well today with the baby.
Jenny, I'm so glad you asked this, and got such helpful responses. For me, I think it's most like Brenda's post
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