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What do you say?
| Wed, 01-30-2008 - 9:52am |
Now that I am OBVIOUSLY pregnant, more and more people are coming up and asking me the usual questions. One of those questions is... "Is this your first?"


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Deb,
I understand what you are saying and feeling as I went through the same emotions also. I always say that he is our first and do not talk about my angels to other people. I do however once I get to know them that I have angels in heaven and I tell them about my miscarriages.
Hugs.
I didn't have too many people ask me when I was pregnant, but to those that did, I would say "Yes, but it took us a lot to get here." Most people would drop it at that point.
I always just say yes and smile. But I really like the answer one of the PPs when they said "yes, but it took a lot for us to get here" (sorry I don't remember who it was). I think that says a lot without saying too much.
Jen
I usually respond "yes, this will be my first".
Hi, Deb. ((HUGS))
Yes, I know exactly what you mean. I just smile and say "yes" as some pps mentioned, as I don't want to go into my personal history. (Many of my family members and friends don't know about the m/c, let alone telling strangers.)
However, in my mind and sometimes in
Jane
hi Deb.
Really good question. I've gone back and forth on this, too. If the person asking is someone you know well, then you can share with them, but chances are if they're asking such a question, it's more a polite gesture rather than a philosophical question. Those kind of people don't need to know such personal information about me. There were lots of great responses to this question. It's also been my experience that if I shared about my m/c with someone who wasn't very close to me, that they get really super uncomfortable. And, they usually don't have any real response for you. I know then that perhaps I shouldn't have shared with them.
I'm glad that we have each other to share with. It's been very important for me.
Karen
I like many of the PP I also answer yes to that question.
Deb - I just say this is my first.
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