Husband doesn't want me to try...
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Husband doesn't want me to try...
| Sat, 02-21-2004 - 5:00pm |
the Nuvaring. We tried charting and temping after I had my baby. Now I'm back on the pill. I didn't really want to go back on the pill, but I was having terrible PMS and nausea throughout the month. I had bloodwork done and estrogen levels were elevated. So I feel better now and think that hormonal birth control is my best bet. But when I mentioned that I wanted to consider the Nuvaring my husband said no way. I'm not sure if I'd try it or not, but I'd like to talk to my doctor about it. I understand his concerns of something being in my body and it slipping out, but isn't this concerning my body? Of course his opinion matters because it is our marriage and it would be our responsibility if I got pregnant again, but how do I get him to consider different options?
Yavonne
Wife to Devin since May 12, 2001
Angel born to heaven August 20, 2002
Mommy to Bunny (Aaliyah) July 29,2003

You could start by telling DH that you are just as concerned about using an effective method of contraception as he is. Actually, NuvaRing (as a method of delivering contraceptive hormones correctly) has a much lower chance of user failure than do Oral contraceptives. Insert it once and 3 weeks later remove it for your period, rather than having to remember 21 times a month to take your pill on time. If his concern is that the ring will slip out he could check that it is inserted as part of foreplay, just as some diaphragm wearers have their SO / DH insert their D for them and check that it is properly positioned. It can be a small loving gesture that DH is directly assisting with BC without him wearing a condom. It is unlikely that he will feel the ring but if that does occur then it can be removed for up to three hours at a time without lowering its effectiveness. Let us know how you’re doing, ok?
Good luck
Jill
Honestly, I'm pretty sure I'd notice if I lost my ring!