SISTER WAS 7 WKS PREGNANT
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SISTER WAS 7 WKS PREGNANT
| Tue, 02-24-2004 - 11:22pm |
My sister was 7 weeks pregnant, got pregnant even though she was using the IUD. She lost her baby this afternoon. Noone should ever have to go through this. I don't believe the 99.3% effective statement is true.

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IUDs are one of the most effective methods of contraception there is. Even so, it's not perfect. I hope your Sis is physically OK. I am so sorry about her loss.
(((HUGS)))
Jill
<> Of course its true! Researchers dont just pull numbers out of their @$$e$ when they come up with this stuff. Your sister just happened to be in the unlucky .7%.
*MG08*
I'm really sorry j....*hugs* to you and your sister!
The stats...well they don't mean much when it happens to you and your's, I know.
I don't appreciate your comment. My sister is newly engaged and hadn't had the opportunity to remove the IUD. She is also not a monster. She appreciate the value of a life and of course now that the baby had been made she wanted it.
I have to agree with happyjusttwo, though ... I don't think Mattysgirl was trying to be mean, if anything, she was thinking out loud, and I have to admit the same thing ran through my mind. Women who end pregnancies are not monsters, and I don't think anyone insinuated that ... I also daresay there is no "of course" ("Of course now that the baby had been made she wanted it") involved in any pregnancy - there is joy, fear, risk, and all kinds of other emotions.
I know you are going through an emotional time right now, and my heart does go out to your family. Please try not to get upset at the perspective taken on the board ... this is a birth control board, after all, and not a pregnancy or loss board.
Hugs,
Caitlin
If you and your sister would like to have support from women who have also experienced miscarriages I know you both would be welcome on the iVillage Miscarriage board at
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhmiscarriag It’s a very caring Board and I know you would find comfort there.
(((Hugs)))
Jill
I'm truly sorry if I offended you in any way by my comment. It wasn't my intention, and as one of the other posters said, I was really just thinking out loud. Again, I'm honestly apologetic if I've caused you any emotional harm.
I will point out, however, that I didn't say nor imply that your sister was a monster. What I was trying to point out here is that people using birth control shouldn't expect to get pregnant -- that's the beauty of it! Expecially with the IUD, if a woman is trying/hoping to concieve, she should have the IUD removed because the chances of the fetus surviving while sharing a womb with the IUD are pretty minimal. To be blunt (again, at the risk of being misunderstood): she should have seen it comming.
In the meantime, keep in mind that your sister is young, newly engaged and has much time in front of her. She should get the IUD removed and try again for a *planned* and *healthy* baby. There's nothing to stop her from trying again. All the best of luck to you and your sister.
*MG08*
PS--> A big thanks to everyone who spoke on my behalf while I was away at work today! I appreciate it so much. (((hugs!)))
So sorry to hear about your situation. I think you know what has to be done, and it definately wont be easy, but you *will* get through it. Good Luck with everything in that aspect. If it helps at all, iVillage has great boards concerning the loss of a child, pregnancy and abortion as well...
Unfortunately, I think that "jnj2004" was someone who, like you, found this board and sought it out only during her time of need, so to speak. I dont think she's around to answer your question.
Good Luck with your decision.
Hugs, *MG*
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