SISTER WAS 7 WKS PREGNANT

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Registered: 02-23-2004
SISTER WAS 7 WKS PREGNANT
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Tue, 02-24-2004 - 11:22pm
My sister was 7 weeks pregnant, got pregnant even though she was using the IUD. She lost her baby this afternoon. Noone should ever have to go through this. I don't believe the 99.3% effective statement is true.

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 11:39pm
Oh Jen, I'm so sorry!

IUDs are one of the most effective methods of contraception there is. Even so, it's not perfect. I hope your Sis is physically OK. I am so sorry about her loss.

(((HUGS)))

      Jill

    

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Registered: 05-12-2003
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 12:48am
So sorry for your sister's loss. Chances are that the pregnancy wasnt wanted since she had an IUD, but it cant be easy.

<> Of course its true! Researchers dont just pull numbers out of their @$$e$ when they come up with this stuff. Your sister just happened to be in the unlucky .7%.

*MG08*

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 12:17pm

I'm really sorry j....*hugs* to you and your sister!


The stats...well they don't mean much when it happens to you and your's, I know.

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 12:36pm
Dear Mattys girl08,

I don't appreciate your comment. My sister is newly engaged and hadn't had the opportunity to remove the IUD. She is also not a monster. She appreciate the value of a life and of course now that the baby had been made she wanted it.

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Registered: 01-15-2003
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 12:46pm
I don't think Mattys Girl was trying to be mean - she was merely trying to help put a difficult situation in perspective (I hope you don't mind me talking on your behalf, MG08!!!). I have to agree, when I hear of a birth control failure where the pregnancy did not remain viable, I think much the same thing. I was HOPING for the same thing when I had a pill failure, but it didn't, so I terminated the pregnancy. I am not a monster either - I'm just not willing to be a mother.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 1:06pm
My condolences to you and to your sister ... losing a pregnancy is a terrible thing to have to go through, whether the pregnancy is planned and desired, or not.

I have to agree with happyjusttwo, though ... I don't think Mattysgirl was trying to be mean, if anything, she was thinking out loud, and I have to admit the same thing ran through my mind. Women who end pregnancies are not monsters, and I don't think anyone insinuated that ... I also daresay there is no "of course" ("Of course now that the baby had been made she wanted it") involved in any pregnancy - there is joy, fear, risk, and all kinds of other emotions.

I know you are going through an emotional time right now, and my heart does go out to your family. Please try not to get upset at the perspective taken on the board ... this is a birth control board, after all, and not a pregnancy or loss board.

Hugs,

Caitlin

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 5:39pm
Hi Jen,

If you and your sister would like to have support from women who have also experienced miscarriages I know you both would be welcome on the iVillage Miscarriage board at

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhmiscarriag It’s a very caring Board and I know you would find comfort there.

(((Hugs)))

      Jill

    

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Registered: 05-12-2003
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 12:06am
jnj2004,

I'm truly sorry if I offended you in any way by my comment. It wasn't my intention, and as one of the other posters said, I was really just thinking out loud. Again, I'm honestly apologetic if I've caused you any emotional harm.

I will point out, however, that I didn't say nor imply that your sister was a monster. What I was trying to point out here is that people using birth control shouldn't expect to get pregnant -- that's the beauty of it! Expecially with the IUD, if a woman is trying/hoping to concieve, she should have the IUD removed because the chances of the fetus surviving while sharing a womb with the IUD are pretty minimal. To be blunt (again, at the risk of being misunderstood): she should have seen it comming.

In the meantime, keep in mind that your sister is young, newly engaged and has much time in front of her. She should get the IUD removed and try again for a *planned* and *healthy* baby. There's nothing to stop her from trying again. All the best of luck to you and your sister.

*MG08*

PS--> A big thanks to everyone who spoke on my behalf while I was away at work today! I appreciate it so much. (((hugs!)))

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 7:56pm
Please tell me, what happened with your sister. Did she loose the baby while trying to remove the IUD? I am in the exact same situation, 7 weeks, just found out today. The IUD is right there with the baby. I can't stand the thought of loosing the baby, but the doctor says my life is at risk due to bacterial infection in the uterus. It's not fair to my 3 year old daugter to risk leaving her without a mother. I am also not sure if I will be able to face myself in the mirror if my actions destroy this fetus. Please tell me what happened.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-12-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 8:35pm
Hi Tricia...

So sorry to hear about your situation. I think you know what has to be done, and it definately wont be easy, but you *will* get through it. Good Luck with everything in that aspect. If it helps at all, iVillage has great boards concerning the loss of a child, pregnancy and abortion as well...

Unfortunately, I think that "jnj2004" was someone who, like you, found this board and sought it out only during her time of need, so to speak. I dont think she's around to answer your question.

Good Luck with your decision.

Hugs, *MG*

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