regarding being cut by IUD

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Registered: 03-15-2004
regarding being cut by IUD
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Mon, 04-05-2004 - 11:54am
WOW, I just checked the message board about the post I put up about the patch and I was so supprised to see two posts asking about my husband being cut up from the IUD.

No, the IUD was not expelled-I went in to have a physical about 3 weeks ago and YES it is VERY common for the string of the IUD to cut your partner. The string is attached at the end of the iud and hangs down the cervix so that the gynocolgyst could remove it easily and you are supposed to check the IUD monthly to ensure that it has not slipped or has been expelled. The string looks kinda like a thin clear fishing wire so you could understand how it would cut your partner. It did not cut him everytime- only during deep penetration, like when I was on top or other positions like that. I don't mean to be graphic but the reason I am surprised about these questions is this is the Birth Control message board and I am wondering if no one has ever brought this topic up before. It is something women should know if considering The IUD.

Like I said before I actually LOVED having it. I can't think of any thing to complain about other than the fact that it would cut my husband.

Oh and by the way thank you for your responses about the Patch. It will be very valuable to consider whether I will continue on it.

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 2:45pm
Kiss, realize that what you are suggesting will be of detriment to our relationship. BC should be a decision of both parties involved, especially when in a committed relationship. If she were single, or we had not already had two children together, and I did not plan to be with her for the rest of my life, I would agree with you, but in saying that I have to feel and IUD inside her for the rest of the time she requires it, is wrong in my opinion, and I have already let my SO know that if she does not eventually have it removed and finds another form of BC, then we will probably be over. I do not condone abortion except in extreme cases, and an IUD in my opinion is not far from it. The egg actually gets fertilized, and then does sometimes attach. The IUD is there to knock it off, or prevent its attachment. I will wear condoms for the rest of my life before thinking that she has a miscarriage every month due to a form of BC I believe should still be outlawed.
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Registered: 03-29-2003
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 3:03pm
If it is inserted properly, you will not feel it, that is why I said she has to get it checked out. I would also be using a back-up method in the meantime. I feel you are wrong, BC is the women's decision. It is her body, and certain chemicals can effect her in a why you might not understand. I am sorry you guys are having problems with the IUD, but if everything is fine with the insertion, neither one of you should feel it. I hope everything works out whatever she decides.


Edited 6/3/2004 3:08 pm ET ET by kissmedeadly
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Registered: 07-14-2000
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 3:15pm
Jeephead, the purpose of this board is to discuss health issues related to birth control. We have already shared that feeling the strings of an IUD is not a normal situation, and that it might indicate a problem with the IUD. With the additional information you have given us, it seems quite possible that your wife may have additional health issues that need to be adressed by a doctor ASAP, whether the IUD is ultimately removed or not.

Beyond that, you seem to have some marital relationship problems that are beyond the scope of this board. I would suggest that you both seek qualified professional help to come to some kind of agreement on issues of birth control and family size.

Finally, this board is not the place for a discussion of the moral status of any form of birth control, as stated in the welcome post in the top section of the board. If you feel the need to discuss that, please take it to a debate board.

Thank you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 3:15pm
For what it's worth, she will need to have her IUD removed in about 8 years. I know that's a long time, but it can't stay in forever.

Also, I hope you're not suggesting that your wife take any hormonal methods of birth control, because they also prevent egg implantation in the off chance that an egg is produced and fertilized. I realize that the chances of that happening are less than 1 in 100 for correct use of the pill, but it's still a possibility. The birth control pill is just as "abortive" as the IUD. Also, it's a pretty well-known fact that women who aren't using any form of birth control don't implant the egg every time it's fertilized. about 25% of the time it never implants and simply gets washed out during the next menstrual cycle. by your logic, all women spontaneously abort their babies sometimes. I think it's important to understand the difference, and realize that an IUD simply causes a natural phenomenon to happen all the time, rather than 25% of the time.

I don't want to get into a political debate, it just seems to me like you're mostly unhappy about your wife going against your wishes and having an IUD inserted without asking you first. I think you're right to be unhappy. But I think it's important to at least understand what this method of BC entails and maybe learn to live with your wife's choice, rather than resent her for it. You still have the chance to convince her it's a bad idea. You can conceive very soon after its removal. If you convince your wife to try for another child, the IUD can be removed and she can be pregnant in a matter of a couple months. Don't lose all hope.

Also, there was only ever one design of the IUD that was banned from the US, it was the Dalkon Shield and was designed poorly, allowing for increased risk of pelvic inflammatory disease. Modern IUDs have been used for decades by millions of women all over the world and are actually safer and more effective than other non-permanent methods of birth control. The risk of dying from an IUD is much less than dying from the pill, especially in women over 30. According to the patient information included with my BCP, 31.7 women over 40 out of 100,000 per year die from combined oral contraceptive use. Only 1.4 women over 40 in 100,000 will die from an IUD.
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Registered: 01-15-2003
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 4:05pm
I disagree with you. Birth Control is a couple's decision. *Both* parties health & well being must be taken into account......

Now, I also don't think one party should *convince* (or "oops") another to have children they don't want.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-30-2003
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 4:17pm
Hi jeephead,

I hope that the two of you can reach an agreement but ultimately, contraceptive decisions concerning her body are your partner’s to make. This board is not the place to debate the issue of abortion. There are debate boards in iVillage for that. However, for studies refuting the incorrect belief that IUDs commonly cause the expulsion of fertilized eggs see:

1. The intrauterine contraceptive device: an often-forgotten and maligned method of contraception.

http://www4.infotrieve.com/newmedline/detail.asp?NameID=10411781&Session=&searchQuery=The+intrauterine+contraceptive+device%3A+an+often%2Dforgotten+and+maligned+method+of+contraception%2E+&count=1

2. New insights on the mode of action of intrauterine contraceptive devices in women.

http://www4.infotrieve.com/newmedline/detail.asp?NameID=3360166&Session=&searchQuery=New+insights+on+the+mode+of+action+of+intrauterine+contraceptive+devices+in+women%2E+&count=1

3. Contraceptives versus abortifacients. http://www4.infotrieve.com/newmedline/detail.asp?NameID=12343158&Session=&searchQuery=IUD+AND+fertilized+eggs&count=4

Unless there are more questions or comments concerning being injured by an IUD I think we have reached the end of this discussion.

I wish both of you the best of luck.

      Jill

    

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