The Pros and Condoms

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Registered: 04-04-2004
The Pros and Condoms
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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 11:30pm
I'm 18, i'm in college, and my boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and a half. You'd think we'd have sex, right? Well, for awhile i wanted to, and he didn't. Then one night he was drunk and his dorm room neighbor said "anyone need any condoms?" and he took a whole bunch. The next day when I was nursing him back to health he was laughing about his pocket full of condoms and said "well, I should probably give these back." And i was like "nooo, keep some." So he kept them. Then he started getting curious and wanted to put one on and do stuff and see if he could enter me. Well, it didn't work that well the first couple of times but it was kinda fun (we didn't consider it to be sex, although techinally it was). Like the third time, I really concentrated on relaxing and getting past the hurty part. Before I knew it, he was gently thrusting. (Sorry this story is getting so long and graphic...well, what am i apoligizing for, this is all about sex). He asked if I wanted to stop, and I asked if he did. We didn't. I actually had an orgasm pretty quickly and told him it was ok for him to keep going and he did for a bit but then pulled out and i used my hand to finish him off. Afterwards, he was like "so do you think that was sex?...yeah, it was." And we were both really happy and ok with it and he just said "well, we have to make sure we don't do it a lot...like on a regular basis." But that was the beginning of February... See, he is really concerned that I will get pregnant. Like the first time he asked me every hour if i had gotten my period, and he told me his friends did the same thing with their girlfriends the first time. But his friends have sex all the time now. And we haven't done it again. I feel like I am pressuring him into it, and that's not a good feeling. I'm not on birth control. I just think it's really odd that I trust condoms more than he does. I mean, you don't have to be real smart to follow the directions and use it correctly.

So i'm finally to my main point: am i right in trusting condoms so much? have any of you ever had one that broke? has anyone taken the morning after pill? with just a condom, would you still recommend pulling out?

Thanks so much for any advice or stories!

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 4:49pm
I've met two married women who for their entire marriage unless trying to get pregnant, they use condoms as birth control!!!!!! ANd they are all very happy with it. I say good for them....the less hormones to mess with their bodies the better. I bet a lot of people woudln't realize that even married people use condoms sometimes! Kind of interesting.
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Registered: 04-30-2004
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 6:16pm
My husband and I have never had a problem using only condoms....while this may be a bit off topic, to me it sounds as if your boyfriend may have different issues. I say that because my best friend, back in highschool dated a guy and the situation was VERY simular to yours, and he was so nervous because he was "confused" about his sexuality. I have never known a guy to be so nervous about getting a girl preg that he didn't want to have sex at all, and that didn't/couldn't come while having sex for the first time, and had to be coaxed into it. It just sounds like there is something more that he isn't telling you, that he is afraid to tell you...

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