I can't believe this!

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Registered: 09-15-2003
I can't believe this!
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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 7:12pm
I am in utter disbelief. I am 27 and already have a 4-year old daughter thanks to a pill failure. I have tried several pills, the ring and the patch and hated the hormonal side effects. I am sensitive to spermicide, so the diaphragm is out. I loved my copper IUD, but expelled it (twice). I practiced fertility awareness for 4 years, using condoms (which I hated) during my fertile time. I got so frustrated because whenever I wanted to have sex the most was when I was unsafe and had to use a condom. Then when I was safe and didn't need the condom, I had no interest in sex. Finally, my husband got a vasectomy. When his semen analysis came back okay (sterile), I was so happy! Well yesterday, one month after the semen analysis, I decided to check his semen using my microscope at home. Imagine my horror when I saw tons of little swimmers that were not there the month before! There seemed to be just as many as before the vasectomy. And we had had sex the day before during a very dangerous, fertile time. I hadn't been taking my temperature, because I thought I was done with fertility awareness. Well, when I took my temperature this morning, it was at a post-ovulatory level. I'm guessing that I ovulated either the day of or the day after we had sex. This is just unbelievable. I would've done emergency contraception only if I could've been sure that I hadn't already ovulated and that I would only be preventing conception not implantation. Since I wasn't sure about my ovulation status, I decided not to use EC. So now the long hard wait begins... Just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 11:45pm
Hi ocean925,

What an amazingly presumptuous statement to make, on the basis of five words, about someone of whom you know nothing! I do hope you give more thought to future posts! I think an apology would be in order.

      Jill

    

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 5:51am
Thanks for the support, Jill. I was a bit offended by the remark. Still awaiting hubby's analysis results...
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 8:23am
"thanks to a pill failure" can also connote that she is thankful to have her daughter....as we've known missmuffi here for some time, I'm very sure that's the case.

Please do remember that the online world is much the same as the real-live world--if you wouldn't walk up to a complete stranger on the street and criticize her about her personal life, we'd ask you not to do it here either.

Judie Cl for Birth Control 
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Registered: 06-29-2003
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 9:14am
I took the comment "because of pill failure" as to how she became pregnant-not that she doesnt love her child. And besides, that wasnt the basis of the post.......
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Registered: 05-05-2004
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 11:58am
Ok, Ok. When I read that sentence, it sounded like a complaint to me. Since the post was centered around being fed up with birth control not working, it made it sound like she was exasperated. I apologize for the comment. I just felt sad when I read it because I thought it had been meant like the way that I interpreted it when I read it. If the true intent was being thankful because of the pill failure, then that's fantastic. I'm sure it's very difficult not being able to rely on any particular form of birth control to be effective, and I would certainly be frustrated too. The reason I had posted that previous comment was because I was shocked from that sentence, but if I interpreted it wrong then that's a good thing! I'm happy to know that it wasn't the case.

Best of luck in your future endeavors.

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 5:20pm
No hard feelings. I love my daughter dearly. She was a God-send, really. If it weren't for her, my late mother-in-law never would have seen her son get married and have a child.

Well, the saga continues... The doctor told my husband that, based on his recent semen analysis, he "couldn't say either way". I had my husband find out what the actual number was, and he was told it was "30 spermatazoa per high power field". I thought we'd get a number in cells/milliliter (10-20 million being normal). So I don't know what this number means, except that they saw some sperm. Doc said to do 5 more ejaculations, retest and them come visit him to decide where to go from there. So frustrating!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 7:01pm

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 7:31pm
Can you tell me what the cells/ml would be for a couple different "high power" magnifications? 30 sounds about right for what I saw looking under 400X.

I assume the doctor would still charge for a redo, because he said the Vasclip is pretty new and not well studied, so he can't guarantee how long it is good for. As long as the insurance company doesn't have a problem with paying for it, it should only cost us a $15 copayment. Poor hubby, though. I'd hate for him to have to go through it again. It wasn't a huge deal, but it didn't look too fun, either. Hopefully the next analysis will at least show a trend downward. I'll keep tracking it at home with my microscope, too.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 10:10pm

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Registered: 06-29-2003
Fri, 05-07-2004 - 10:32am
What a situation! If the dr says it would be best to have the procedure again, whould you go with the vasclip or the traditional vasectomy? If I may ask, where abouts do you live? Its funny how different drs(and different areas) do things differently. I am just curious. Hope you dont mind!

~Jossie