BCP & painful intercourse

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Registered: 01-13-2004
BCP & painful intercourse
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Tue, 05-25-2004 - 1:31am
Ok, I have been on OrthoTriCyclen now for over 2 years & recently started my first "active" relationship. It doesn't so much as hurt but my natural lubrication is pretty much little to none-gone almost! What is going on here? Also I noticed that I started to have before-period cramping tonight after intercourse this morning. HELP!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 8:20am
Use an artificial lubricant!! There's no shame in it, and they're available where you buy condoms--my preferences are for Astroglide and KY Liquid, they feel pretty natural and are safe to use with condoms (which you should be using if you both aren't clean of STD's). Having intercourse without enough lubrication is BAD, you can damage your vaginal tissues with the friction and that can leave you susceptible to infections. The progestin in the pill can dry some women out, and an artificial lubricant is the easiest way to take care of it (otherwise you're switching pills to find one that doesn't dry you out).

Sometimes I get cramping if he's been hitting my cervix too vigorously, but usually that's right after and not later in the day, though some abdominal cramps feel like period cramps but aren't! I wouldn't worry too much about that unless the pain is significant, then you might bring that up to your doctor.

Good luck!

Judie
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Registered: 05-25-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 6:06pm
I am having the same problem, but I'm on the Depo shot. I was sneaking and using lube, but then my husband found it by the bed, and he got upset. He started saying that he was the problem. He wouldn't not believe me. Now I just have to have dry sex. It really hurts me, but I just can't talk to him about it. It isn't him! I'm turned on, but nothing! He is embarrassed to use lube, but I need it. Any ideas on how to talk to him??
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 7:46pm
Hi luvyourhearing,

As Judie said dry and painful sex can be the beginning of serious reproductive health problems not to mention developing an association between sex and pain to the extent that the sufferer tries to avoid an intimate relationship to the extent possible. You might let DH read this discussion to show him that the problem isn’t with him but is a rather common physical problem for which there is a simple solution.

Good luck and hugs

      Jill

    

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 9:08pm
Judie,

I have talked to my doctor and she said it was due to the depo and not any other health problem. No matter what I do, he doesn't believe me. I will check out what you said to.

Thanks, Jaime