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Vaginal dryness
| Tue, 05-25-2004 - 9:43pm |
I am very much in love with my husband, but I cannot get lube up before sex NO MATTER WHAT HE DOES. It is going to ruin our relationship. He thinks it is him, and I know it is the depo shot. I asked my doctor. Sex is very painful when I get dry. I get embarrassed about it too. One time I used ky and he found it by the bed. He instantly thought he wasn't turning me on. He was, but I just don't work. THe lube was awsome, but he isn't open to using it. Is there anything i can change in my diet or anyway to tell him what is going on? Is there anything written on this?
Thanks, Jaime
Thanks, Jaime

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A lot has been written on vaginal dryness. Lack of estrogen can be one of the main reasons and if you are on Depo then your estrogen will be very low. For information about Vaginal dryness see:
http://www.ivillagehealth.com/experts/womens/qas/0,,416525_151527,00.html and
http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/library/WO/00034.html You can plug ‘vaginal dryness’ into Google and get a lot more hits.
Perhaps if he reads some of the articles with you he will realize that he is not the problem and that there are simple solutions for this common problem. Perhaps an estrogen cream might help. You might also want to discuss your problem with your doctor and see what s/he recommends. Your doc may also be able to reassure DH and explain that treating your problem in no way cast aspersions on his ability.
Good luck and hugs
Jill
Thank you so much for that. You are a lifesaver! I couldn't find anything anywhere about that said depo in the context of it. thank you so much
for the record, I don't think there's anything OK about having to "settle" for painful sex. You may need to explain to DH that you're not willing to endure the pain of dry sex just to make him feel manly. Maybe he'd get over it then. That's just my opinion, though.
THanks,
Jaime
If he does get more used to it, you could do what I used to do -- keep it by the bed and make it part of foreplay. when i needed to reapply mid intercourse, we'd usually briefly pause, pulling out a little but not completely and then add a little to him, which worked well.
jaime
thanks
jaime
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