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Overcoming Fear
| Tue, 06-01-2004 - 12:35pm |
My fiance & I have just given birth (7 weeks ago) to a beautiful baby girl. We had some difficulties during the pregnancy with varicose veins & blood clots. It was highly suggested by several doctors & nurses that we not have any more children because of her condition, plus given the fact that between us we have 4 children & are 36 & 35 respectively. We briefly discussed a tubal ligation but not enough to have made the decision when we had our child. I also believe she may have hoped to hear enough contradictory advice to try to have another. But now I think we have realized we should be thankful for the children we have been blessed with & move on. Now, after the fact, we are looking at aspects of birth control. She has high blood pressure so she is on medication for that & on the lower dose of the pill. This is not a long term soloution we want & are looking at what may be the best course of action to take next. She doesn't seem as inclined to go back & have a tubal ligation & I volounteered to have a vasectomy... So this is where I would like to have some advice & comfort I suppose... I want to the right thing by my family & her, I'm just nervous about this. Any help & advice will be greatly appreciated.
Sincerely,
Stephen

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Congratulations on your willingness to have a vasectomy! If you have completed your family and your wife has medical problems then a vasectomy is certainly a good choice and the responsible thing to do. Let us know what the two of you decide, ok?
Best wishes,
Jill
Sincerely,
Stephen
If you're still uncomfortable about the operation and nervous about being cut and cauterized (which is totally understandable), you might want to see if there are any doctors in your area who perform the Vasclip alternative:
http://www.vasclip.com/
Rather than cutting the tubes, they're clipped off with a small plastic device. It's as effective as vasectomy without the physical and emotional trauma of having the tubes actually cut. There are women around whose husbands have had the procedure done and speak highly of it. If you do a search of the boards for "vasclip" you should come across those posts.
Good luck!
Yeah, it's all too easy for someone who isn't going to be directly involved in the discomfort to say suck-it-up. On the other hand a vas. is a lot less invasive than a TL and members who have husbands who had the operation have posted that their DHs have done very well post-op.
If you do have the operation be sure to have several sperm count checks (after at least 20 ejaculations) and over a period of 3 or more months to make certain you are sterile. Your little swimmers can hang around for a long time after they are produced.
Good luck!
Jill
Josie
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