Overcoming Fear

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Registered: 12-22-2003
Overcoming Fear
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Tue, 06-01-2004 - 12:35pm
My fiance & I have just given birth (7 weeks ago) to a beautiful baby girl. We had some difficulties during the pregnancy with varicose veins & blood clots. It was highly suggested by several doctors & nurses that we not have any more children because of her condition, plus given the fact that between us we have 4 children & are 36 & 35 respectively. We briefly discussed a tubal ligation but not enough to have made the decision when we had our child. I also believe she may have hoped to hear enough contradictory advice to try to have another. But now I think we have realized we should be thankful for the children we have been blessed with & move on. Now, after the fact, we are looking at aspects of birth control. She has high blood pressure so she is on medication for that & on the lower dose of the pill. This is not a long term soloution we want & are looking at what may be the best course of action to take next. She doesn't seem as inclined to go back & have a tubal ligation & I volounteered to have a vasectomy... So this is where I would like to have some advice & comfort I suppose... I want to the right thing by my family & her, I'm just nervous about this. Any help & advice will be greatly appreciated.

Sincerely,

Stephen

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Registered: 12-22-2003
In reply to: stricksw
Sat, 06-12-2004 - 6:02pm
Day 2.... : (

Well, Im a little more sore tosay than yesterday, but not outrageously so, its just really an anoying crampy feeling that I'm sure you ladies can relate too! The Dr. said sexual relations could begin no sooner than a week, more if I didn't feel like it & that precatutions should be taken. Sample one is due in 6 weeks. And thats where we are right now... Have a great weekend!

Stephen

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Registered: 06-29-2003
In reply to: stricksw
Sat, 06-12-2004 - 8:41pm
It seems your experience was exactly like my husbands! How long till you dr does a sperm analysis and how many does he do? Way to go!



Josie
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Registered: 12-22-2003
In reply to: stricksw
Sun, 06-13-2004 - 8:54pm
The Dr said 6 weeks. Well... I have been a bad bad boy... :( We had every intention of making love before I had this done because we knew it would be about a couple of weeks till I felt better, alas that didn't happen due to unforseen consequences. So last night, I was in a little discomfort but still interested( I have an uncomonly high libido...) so I figured that that I at least could take care of her, it wouldnt be completely satisfying, but satisfying nonetheless that she would at least be pleased...Well....one thing led to another & it seemed almost like high school again, I was only going to do this little bit... and befor you know it it happened. We were worried but it didn't seem to hurt at the time. I feel bad in the sense that I didnt have better sense of waiting. Today has been ok, other than being a little more crampy. She was worried that I would be ok, I should have resisted better but she is just so irresistable & I just had to have her. Hopefully nothing is damaged, it doesnt feel that way, just a little achy.

Stephen

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Registered: 01-15-2003
In reply to: stricksw
Mon, 06-14-2004 - 7:34pm
Congratulations for taking the plunge!

It really is an easy surgery, isn't it?!?!?! I watched my husband's, & it was so quick & easy. I don't really like watching him be cut, & it was VERY strange watching another man handle my husband's "parts", but it really was a simple procedure.

Make sure to have fun getting rid of all the residual sperm before your tests!!!!

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Registered: 01-15-2003
In reply to: stricksw
Mon, 06-14-2004 - 7:37pm
I expect you're fine! I know my husband didn't quite feel like it for a little while (though other parts had other thoughts!) but the doctor told us that he could have sex as soon as he felt up to it, so I doubt you've damamged anything!
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Registered: 12-22-2003
In reply to: stricksw
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 6:33pm
Well, we couldnt resist & have made love 2 more times & plan for our fourth tonight!lol, Just cant seem to resist each other. And in case you are wondering, she was on the pill before we started this & her supply will be done just about the time we get to # 20-30 depending on our frequency! Thanks for all your support!

Stephen

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Registered: 12-30-2003
In reply to: stricksw
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 9:01pm
Hi Stephen,

It's not just a numbers game... Those little fellows can be inside a guy for several months after he's been snipped. I would suggest she not stop her pills (unless you start using another effective method of contraception) until you have two sperm tests and are shown to be free of all your little swimmers. You wouldn't want to slip up this late in the game, right? Thanks for the update.

Good luck,

      Jill

    

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Registered: 12-22-2003
In reply to: stricksw
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 7:22am
No, I agree, I guess I was inaccurate in explaining how much birth control she has left. Before I finalized this decision, she had just gone to the doctor & got 5 packs of birth control, that was sort of the ironic joke when we decided to set the appointment is that we had all this other birth control. She will take them until my 2 specimens indicate negative.

Stephen

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