IUD

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2004
IUD
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Tue, 06-01-2004 - 2:21pm
My SO went and got an IUD about 6 monthes ago. In the time she has had it I have been stabbed twice by it during entercourse, and now I have to use a specific position, just so I don't feel it. I can avoid it from the front, and from the back, but I generally feel it from the back. I asked her about 3 monthes ago to get it removed, and she said she would, but so far, no luck. I am about to ask her again, but was wondering how I should approach it. I am getting fed up with it. I know it is supposed to be a very good method these days, but with all the pain it has caused, and the lack of being able to move around during sex, I would think she would want it removed. But so far, no luck. What's up? Should I venture to bring it up again???
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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: jeephead
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 3:21pm
From what I understand, an IUD should be so far away from the vagina that you would never come in contact with a pointy bit of it. Since you are being stabbed by it during intercourse, this sounds like your SO has partially expelled her IUD. This is not a good thing, and she should go to her doctor to make sure everything's okay with it. If it's not inserted right, I don't think it's effective at preventing pregnancy. I'm not 100% sure about all this, but this is the first I've heard about a man being stabbed with one, I was always under the impression it could not be felt by either partner. You should try to tell your wife that something may not be right with the device and that she should make a doctor's appointment. Maybe telling her this affects her health (and not just your love life) will motivate her to go the GYN.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2003
In reply to: jeephead
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 3:25pm
If you are truly getting stabbed by the IUD itself then its partially expelled. However, more likely than not, what happpens is that the string gets cut to a length which makes the string poke the partner's penis. In this situation, esp. since enough time has elapsed to allow the string to soften and you say its still poking you, then the prudent thing to do would be to get the string cut even shorter. That is what most doctors would do anyway.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2004
In reply to: jeephead
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 4:13pm
I would definately discuss with her about getting it checked. I have had mine for two years and have asked my DH several times if he felt anything. He always says no. Something is not right and for her health, she needs to get it looked at.

Also, from a BC standpoint, the IUD is very effective BC. If she has trouble with extra hormones in her system, then this is the best for her health. Once she has the problem taken care of, it will be more enjoyable for both of you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: jeephead
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 4:49pm
maybe she could have her gyno cut the string shorter....
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-15-2003
In reply to: jeephead
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 7:05pm
I just wanted to say that I agree with the other posters that it is not normal to be stabbed by the IUD. My husband was poked a few times by my first IUD, which we later found out was because it was partly expelled with the end hanging out of my cervix. When I got my second IUD, my husband could not feel anything from any angle. Your SO really needs to see her doctor to make sure the IUD is not coming out.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-30-2003
In reply to: jeephead
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 7:24pm
Hi Jeephead, welcome!

We recently had a discussion (in early April of this year) about IUD strings poking the user’s partner. You might be interested in the information in that. The link is:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-bhcontracept&msg=11508.1&ctx=0 Has your SO had her Gyn check to see that her IUD is still positioned correctly? If it is properly positioned, I think it’s likely that it’s the strings that are sticking you. As others have said, if the device has been positioned properly and it isn’t being expelled the IUD itself should be entirely inside the uterus and cervix. If a string trim will not solve the problem (strings too short) then removal (and reinsertion of another IUD) will be required, or switching to another method of contraception.

At a minimum, for her own health and safety, she should have the position of her IUD checked to make certain that it isn’t being expelled and is still effective. If it comes to removal, and if she still wants another IUD, that can be costly and uncomfortable. You can’t share her discomfort but you could offer (if you haven’t already) to pay for the parts of the procedure and device not covered by her insurance. Let us know how the two of you are doing, ok?

Good luck,

      Jill

    

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Registered: 04-08-2004
In reply to: jeephead
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 8:47am
I have felt inside her with my fingers, and found a hard, ridged area where the IUD seems to be placed. It is not the actual IUD itself that I keep feeling, but rather the area of the vaginal lining directly around it. It seems to be lodged sideways or something, because I can feel what seems to be something like a point, poking into the wall itself. It is not even close to her cervix. This is one of the reasons I was rather angry with her desicion to get it in the first place. Plus, we never discussed it before hand. I will talk to her about getting it checked out, but I still have serious issues with the IUD. Unfortunately she does not want any more children. So this was her answer. I would very much like one more child, but after her last pregnancy, and the problems she had physically during it, I don't blame her. We are still talking, or at least I am. I hope that one day she will change her mind, before she is incapable of having any more children. She is 40 years old now, and so that only leaves a few more years to work on this. I love her with all my heart, but as of right now I have five daughters, three of which are not biological. They are much older, and my two biological daughters are 3 and 6 monthes. I have always wanted a son, and we had discussed using a genetics specialist in the DC area to have one. I really hope she changes her mind, as this is very, very important to me.