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Registered: 06-25-2003
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Wed, 06-30-2004 - 12:52am
My guy just started cumming inside me without a condom. He usually pulls out. He always asks me if he can and sometimes I say yes and sometimes I say no. I have been on birth control for years but it still scares me! Am I just being paranoid or does everyone else do this? I know that right before your period is when you are most fertile so I don't let him do it around that time. Is that right? I'm confused! Thanks in advance for any help!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: kitlinham
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 8:09am
You're on the pill, right? As long as you're taking the pill correctly (about the same time every day, no conflicting prescription or herbal meds, no vomiting or diarrhea within 2 hours of taking any pills), you should be 99% protected from pregnancy without any other form of birth control _at any time_. You're not ovulating if you're taking the pill correctly (in most cases, there are very few exceptions), so the time before your period is no more fertile than any other time (and if you weren't on the pill, that assumption would be playing with fire).

So if you're on the pill and taking it correctly, withdrawal isn't going to make any difference. By bailing out on the condom and using withdrawal, though, you're eliminating your extra protection that I bet you're using for peace of mind. There is sperm in pre-ejaculate, so there's not a whole lot of point to withdrawal! The only thing you need to think about is whether or not you've been using condoms for STD protection....

Does that help? Good luck!

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Registered: 05-21-2004
In reply to: kitlinham
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 11:16am
hey there!

i wonder too- are you using any other form of BC?? if you are, (and using it correctly) then you're probably fine (altho, i think a little paranoia, is sort of ok if it will keep you safe).

but to have sex entirely unprotected is really risky- both STD and pregnancy wise. presuming you are using some method of BC, i'd be VERY sure of his sexual health before allowing him to go without condom.

but i think you hit the nail on the head when you said this is making you feel a little paranoid! if you're not entirely comfortable, then maybe you've just found the solution to this issue. if he just wore a condom maybe you'd be more at ease??

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: kitlinham
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 1:02pm
as long as you've taken your pills correctly-not missing any-taking them at the same basic time everyday you should be covered.You can find out more about your fertility at:

http://www.tcoyf.com/

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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: kitlinham
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 3:13pm
For the record, I've been having sex condom-free, on the pill, without withdrawal for about 5 and a half years. i always take my pill correctly and use backup if i'm on antibiotics, or have missed a pill due to diarrhea/vomiting. i've never had a pregnancy scare.

the pill is over 99% effective when used correctly, it's intended to be birth control without need for any other method. condoms and other barrier methods are great if you want to have some extra peace of mind, but aren't necessary if you're taking your pills correctly every day. but, like a previous poster said, the withdrawal method is not effective birth control. you may as well let him ejaculate inside you if you're taking your pills right. if you're nervous, then by all means go back to condoms! if you're not confident in your pills alone, find a backup method. it's not worth the anxiety to go without a method you're confident in.
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Registered: 01-07-2004
In reply to: kitlinham
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 3:59pm
Just as an FYI...it is not true that you are most fertile right before your period. You are actually most fertile (ovulating) at the halfway point of your period. This is why and when women get pregnant. You get pregnant halfway between, not right before your period. (Just thought you'd want to know, in case you ever plan on trying to become pregnant.)
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Registered: 07-03-2003
In reply to: kitlinham
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 9:50pm
My question isn't big enough to make its own thread, but I do wonder...

Well, it's 99% effective, which means... 99 out of 100 times there WILL be ovulation?

Doesn't BC also create a mucus covering over the cervix that prevents sperm from entering, so even if there happened to be an ovulation there's still that preventative measure?

The statistic just makes me nervous, especially since in Health class a little while ago, they showed a pregnant teenager who was on BC and still got pregnant.

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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: kitlinham
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 10:11pm
Studies show that when birth control pills are used perfectly they are roughly 99.5% effective. that means that 1 woman per 200 per year of use will get pregnant. In the real world where women don't take their pills perfectly, it's about 97% effective, meaning that 3 women in 100 will get pregnant in one year of use.

Usually when a woman gets pregnant on the pill it's because she wasn't taking it correctly and missed doses, took them late, had diarrhea or vomiting within 2 hours of taking a pill (that's a missed dose) or went more than 7 24-hour days between active pills. If you are taking the pill perfectly (every 24 hours) you have an extremely small chance of ovulating and becoming pregnant.

The pill provides three methods of contraception. it prevents ovulation, it alters the cervical mucous to make it sperm-unfriendly, and it thins the lining of the uterus which makes implantation of a fertilized egg much less likely. for reasons that aren't clear, a very small number of women don't respond correctly to the pill and still ovulate. those are the .5% that become pregnant during perfect use.

The only method of birth control that's 100% effective is abstinence. Even sterilization (tubal ligation and vasectomy) have a small chance of failing and producing a pregnancy. If you're concerned about the effectiveness of your pills, adding a barrier method and/or spermicide can increase your protection and peace of mind.
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Registered: 11-25-2003
In reply to: kitlinham
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 9:14am
Hi,

I used to take Dianette (UK name for Diane-35), and I used to ovulate whilst taking it (scans showed this). I probably also ovulated on the following (sorry, probably mostly all UK names) Yasmin, Cilest, Evra patch, Mercilon, Marvelon, Logynon, Eugynon, Microgynon. I have been on bc for 8 years, just changed to Mirena.

I haven't once had a pregnancy scare, even though I've been on antibiotics (just use condoms for 7 days whilst on antibiotics and 7 days after) several times in these 8 years, and DH never withdraws. The pill does have other effects, not just stopping ovulation, to make them effective (changes cervical mucus, makes the uterus inhospitable for sperm).

By all means use further protection whilst you build up your confidence in your chosen bc.

~Lys~