Got Preg. on BC last year - vasectomy?
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Got Preg. on BC last year - vasectomy?
| Tue, 07-27-2004 - 9:39am |
After the birth of my first child last summer - I went back on the BC pill I had used for 10 years. I missed two pills the 1st month & we used back up protection. The 2nd month I did not miss a pill but ended up pregnant. I had my 2nd son in June - they are 2 days shy of being 1 year apart. My husband & I didn't plan on the 2nd one so soon, but only planned on having 2 kids total. I am 30 and my husband is 29. We are 99% sure we only want 2 kids and my body did not do well being pregnant. I still have severe hip & back pain and am a little stressed from having 2 kids a year apart! Anyway - my question is - is 29 too young to ask my husband for a vasectomy? I really do not trust the pill and DO NOT want an IUD - I have NO DESIRE to get one and am so freaked out about having sex again that he and I haven't even kissed since the baby has been born because....well...we enjoy sex a lot & kissing almost always led to more.... hee hee....... :-). Just looking for thoughts/opinions. I truly beleive we are done & I'm happy with my 2 boys. But my hubby says "what about in 4-5 year - we may want another one". I truly don't think that my body will do well with another pregnancy especially in my mid-30's. I also am not too fond of the newborn stage & not sure I want to start all over again just as my boys are entering school........

However, HE has to be ready for a vasectomy. If he is wondering about more kids, he isn't likely ready to do it.
Since you are sure, have you considered a tubal ligation? I've often heard that the partner who doesn't want (more) kids the MOST is the one who should get "fixed" & I have to agree with that sentiment.
Good Luck to you. I'm sure you're very stressed with two little ones!
Josie
Josie
I'm here off & on! We're both still unemployed. I'll soon be looking for a job not in my field just to try to help keep our heads above water..... we're OK yet, but trying to plan is nerve wracking.
Thanks for thinking of me!!!!!!!!!!!
Jill
Josie