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| Sun, 08-22-2004 - 11:17am |
How would you handle?
Your In Laws to be - Talk about the Promise of Grandchildren..All the Time
and Yet
They do not know that their Son - had a Vasectomy?
Your In Laws to be - Talk about the Promise of Grandchildren..All the Time
and Yet
They do not know that their Son - had a Vasectomy?
How do you tell them?
It is going to be a Heartbreak
What to do?

Unless YOU (you & your partner) decide to give them more detials, a simple "we're not having children" is a more than sufficient answer to their probing.
I dont want to be the one to open this up to his parents.
It was his choice and he made it on his own. (Prior to Us)
We are both sitting on the edge of 40 - and we are both happy
and have no problems/issues with what he has chose to do - for his
own reasons. I find it awesome that I dont have to worry - myself. (about BC)
He has been married once before and did not want children then -
and his parents were aware of him - not wanting to have children.
He went thru a very brutal divorce years ago - so we seem to believe that "THEY FEEL" he made the choice of not having children because of the marriage/relationship was not healthy.
But They do not know He took permanent measures to not father a child.
So they still have "Hope" and he is the only child = to offer a grandchild to them.
His Parents a beautiful, loving, People and we both know that they are going to
be crushed beyond words.....and that is what the main issue is...
Hurting Them.
The reality is - We are both happy - but they will be devestated.
Hurting them was not in his plan.
It just is a rock and a hard place.
Trio
My DF's mom is all about the grandkids, I understand what that kind of pressure is like and how important it is for some people to have grandkids....but everybody has to make their own choices and live their own lives and hopefully your DF's parents will understand his decision.
Best of luck to you...
Co-cl for Birth Control
for your Insight.
and Kind Words.
Trio