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| Mon, 08-23-2004 - 11:33pm |
Okay, so after much debate about which method of birth control is right for me, I find myself extremely exhausted about the subject and pretty frustrated.
I didn't want anything hormonal, and anything that had to be inserted. I find myself pissed off that the woman is the one that constantly has to worry about birth control and how it seems to be just my responsibility! I've racked my brain now for 2 months constantly thinking and worring about methods, bought and read Taking Charge of Your Fertility, add in a couple horrid doctor appointments where they tried to tell me what was best instead of listening, and now I just want to give up. Joining a Nunery and practicing abstinence for the rest of my life is actually looking good to me now after all this.
Why does this have to be so hard? Am I the only one that finds all this frustrating?.
So... much to the dismay of my dear boyfriend... I choose not to be the one to have to worry about this, and I choose....condoms. After 6 years of being the one to worry about not getting pregnant, Im passing that torch on to my bf. And if he does not like it, then we are just not gonna have sex!
Okay, so now my question to you all...
What are your experiences with condoms? Good/Bad? Different kinds? I imagine I'll still have to go out and buy them, so what ones should I get?
I didn't want anything hormonal, and anything that had to be inserted. I find myself pissed off that the woman is the one that constantly has to worry about birth control and how it seems to be just my responsibility! I've racked my brain now for 2 months constantly thinking and worring about methods, bought and read Taking Charge of Your Fertility, add in a couple horrid doctor appointments where they tried to tell me what was best instead of listening, and now I just want to give up. Joining a Nunery and practicing abstinence for the rest of my life is actually looking good to me now after all this.
Why does this have to be so hard? Am I the only one that finds all this frustrating?.
So... much to the dismay of my dear boyfriend... I choose not to be the one to have to worry about this, and I choose....condoms. After 6 years of being the one to worry about not getting pregnant, Im passing that torch on to my bf. And if he does not like it, then we are just not gonna have sex!
Okay, so now my question to you all...
What are your experiences with condoms? Good/Bad? Different kinds? I imagine I'll still have to go out and buy them, so what ones should I get?
Thanks for listening to me complain, this board is the only place that listens when it comes down to preventing babies.
~*Chrissy*~

To make condoms more enjoyable for him, place a drop or two of lube (Astroglide is a very popular favorite) on the inside tip of the condom before he (or YOU for more fun) rolls it on. Then give the outside a little lube too, and you're set. Sometimes the latex will get dry and can break, so keep on using lube. There are also ways to make rolling them on fun, like cheeking it (that's putting it on with your mouth if you're brave) or making it a showy event for him to watch you do it! And a word of advice, if you plan on receiving oral sex, do it before using the condom, because latex can leave you smelling kinda funky! Good luck and have fun!
Dana
Josie
Hope that helps!
sure it would be nice if they guys could do a lot more when it comes to birth control but the fact is that most of the "science" of things happens in us girls. id like to see a pill or a patch for guys that cuts sperm count but until then its kind of up to us to do what we can, which doesnt mean all the responsibility is on the girl. i think the guy should definitely be involved since really we dont just hop on ourselves and get ourselves pregnant. but really i think in the end we are the ones who can decide which method we are more comfortable using, though both parties are responsible.
i also wouldnt recommend threatening with 'no sex' comments because a lack of sex can rift your relationship. sure relationships arent all sex but its still really important and frustrations, especially sexually are never good. i dont want to be preaching to you or anything and i hope you and your boyfriend find something that works out great for both of you and that you are both comfortable with.