Curious Boyfriend needs some understandi

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Registered: 10-21-2003
Curious Boyfriend needs some understandi
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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 12:30pm
Curious boyfriend here. I wish I could understand women better but I need some help understanding your "process." My girlfriend has been on the pill for almost 4 years. Taken it everyday. We had sex the first day of her new pack of pills this past month. One time protected and another time the same day unprotected. I did withdraw the second time before anything came out. I know that is not completely "fool proof." She had taken her pill everday at the sametime this past month like she had the past 3 years. We are not 2.5 days in of her not having her period yet and she is stressing out like you would not believe. What is the likelyhood pregnacy.
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Registered: 08-05-2004
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 12:58pm
Dear curious bf,

I seriously doubt that you've gotten pregnant. If she's been on the pill for SO long, and is continuing to take it correctly, then everything should be fine. My husband and I never use any protection or withdrawl and the pill has come through every time. Also, my period start date recently changed to a day later than it has normally come every month for forever. So that may be the case with your gf. The pill hormones can fluctuate over time as your body gets used to it. Most everyone I know changes pills every couple of years or so to adjust to the changing hormonal needs of the body. There is ALWAYS the possibility but don't freak, give it a couple of more days! If not within 5 days, take a PT, then you'll know!

--wantahug

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Registered: 08-24-2004
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 1:01pm
well curious boyfriend im not sure if i can exactly help ease her tensions as im kind of dealing with the same dilemma right now. my boyfriend and i havent always had protected sex though im on the pill and take it at the same time daily. the stats are...that the pill when used correctly can be about 99% effective, but with missed pills etc. it can be more like 95%/94% effective. (condoms are about 86% effective) sure i guess i should look at those stats and ease my own worries but we are girls and we worry. we tend to think about things too much, which is what i keep telling myself, over think them, obsess, stress out...but for something like pregnancy it can be very valid. pregnancy risks are serious considering it can effect school, work, and every day life...not to mention the costs...then the responsibility of a child, not to mention the stresses of dealing with family (depending on their views). we worry. i mean if shes really stressing out the best thing to do is to get a home pregnancy test at a drug store because they can test as close to one day after a missed period. plus it should help give you both an answer, so you dont have to just be worried. in fact i figure if i go another day or 2, i might just do that, because not knowing is the worst.

hope that helps some!

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 1:18pm
curious boyfriend,

Definitely calm her fears. It's very unlikely she is pregnant. I'm here to say that I have been on the pill 4 1/2 years and I am not very regular about taking it (fluctuates several hours away from my "time" to take it and I often forget for most of the day and take it somewhere between 8-12 hours late) and my (now husband) and I have been having unprotected sex since the beginning.

I've had a few "scares" myself - one very recently when I swore I was pg even tho I wasn't even close to when I get my period. I just kept getting symptoms and interpreting them that way. But your head can do funny things to you. Also remember that the time around a woman's period is often a very emotional time for her so something that will scare you ordinarily will have you in complete craziness.

But do get a pregnancy test, especially if she doesn't get her period by the time she starts up the next pack of pills. Of course you can get false negatives, but the later after a missed period that you test the less likely that is.

Ok, sorry to go on, but you two are probly just fine!! It's nice to see that you were concerned enough about her to seek out some advice on it!!

Good luck with it all,

Susan

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 3:11pm
Nothing is 100% "fool proof"...but as long as she's taken the pill correctly- not skipped/missed any pills and taken them "ontime" she should be covered.I've used the pill as an only form of birth control-without using backup and haven't had any problems....but as always if she's worried she could always test later on if AF doesn't show....


Edited 8/24/2004 7:41 pm ET ET by mrs_frazier