boyfriend worried about pill

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Registered: 08-05-2004
boyfriend worried about pill
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Thu, 08-26-2004 - 12:52pm
Ok...so i told my boyfriend i went on the pill for when he comes home for his 2 week leave from Baghdad, Iraq and i thought he would be A LOT happier than he was. He's so worried about me getting pregnant. He seems to think that since he hasn't had sex in soooo long that "his little guys" (as he put it) will be too powerful without a condom and that the pill will not be able to keep me from getting pregnant if we have unprotected sex. I told him there's nothing to worry about, but i just want to make sure so i can put his (and my) mind at ease. So does he have anything to worry about? The pill will be just as effective if i take it correctly no matter how long it's been since he's had sex or how many times we have sex, right?

Thanks

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Registered: 01-15-2003
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 12:58pm
If the pill is going to be effective for you (99.9% chance, if you're taking them correctly), it is going to be effective for you, regardless of other concerns!!! His sperm are *not* going to be more powerful, regardless of how long it has been since he has had sex. If I remember correctly, sperm are constantly being created & if they aren't used, they are re-absorbed by his body, so it isn't like they've been building up in preparation for impregnation!!!!
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Registered: 05-06-2004
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 1:27pm
You guys shouldn't have anything to worry about as long as you've been taking the pills correctly. And not to jump to any conclusions, but sometimes guys wig out and start thinking that you could be telling him your taking the pill when your really not, just to trap them. So it might not be that he doesn't think the pill will work, but that your trying to trap him. And lets face it, it could easily be done this way. So he might need a talk about trust. If I was a guy I would have to trust a girl completely before having sex without a condom. Sorry if I'm freaking you out, but it could be possible. Try talking to him.

Cassie

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Registered: 08-05-2004
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 2:11pm
Thanks. No you're not freaking me out at all. I actually never even thought of that aspect or saw things from that angle. I think I do need to have a trust talk with him just to make sure things are ok between us in that department. I can't believe i never thought that he might be thinking that. I bet that is the case. He does have a daughter and from what i know of the relationship he had with her mother...it didn't end on very good terms so maybe she did something similar to him.

Thank you again. I definitely will bring this up to him.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 6:19pm
As long as you've taken the pill correctly--as in not skipping any (forgetting) or taking them extra late you should be protected....