Brand new to birth control
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Brand new to birth control
| Mon, 09-06-2004 - 12:46pm |
I've always been the worried type when it came to anything sexual. I am a 21 yr old virgin and not wanting a child anytime soon or to even have sex yet. I have heard of "virgin" pregnancies being conceived from activities such as rubbing the genitals together. My boyfriend and I have been doing such things and I am fearful although I have heard that chances are low of pregnancy occurring. I guess I was wondering what kind of chances I actually have, and then also I have in my possession packets of VCF (spermicide). I had planned on trying those but I'm not sure as to the proper use and if this is even a reasonable option for myself. If anyone could give me any advice that would be fantastic!

I hate to be the one to tell you this hon., but if you have to be concerned about a possible unintended pregnancy (and you do) then you are having sex. You may not be penetrated but it's sex none the less. Your chances of becoming pg are probably quite slim but they are real. If you are fertile and discharging fertile mucus and his fluids (pre-ejaculate or ejaculate) mix with your fertile mucus it's possible for his swimmers to find their way into your tubes and wait for several days for you to ovulate. Remember that if either of you get his genital fluids on your fingers and then touch your labia or insert fingers that can effectively transfer sperm into you. STDs can also be transmitted that way so if there is any doubt about whether he is disease free condoms are the only way to protect yourself. To protect against pregnancy a good 2% Nonoxynol-9 spermicidal gel or a contraceptive sponge would probably be all you need until you begin penetrative intercourse, but you do need to protect yourself. You also need to protect yourself every time you are with your BF because, unless you are charting your fertile signs; basal body temperature, cervical position and cervical mucus you won’t know for sure when you are fertile and ovulate. VCF is effective but it can be tricky to use since it needs to be placed on the tip of the cervix over the opening leading to your uterus. Buying spermicide in individually packaged applicators or contraceptive sponges might be the easiest way to go for now. Thanks for posting. Let us know how you're doing, ok?
Hugs,
Jill