on depo and pregnant - HELP ME

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Registered: 09-06-2004
on depo and pregnant - HELP ME
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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 7:36pm
I"m currently on the depo shot and had my last shot in July. My peroid was late and I took 3 pregnancy tests that all came back POSITIVE!! I'm 22 and I don't know what to do. I've always been so careful and am in complete shock. I know I'm not a kid but I'm not ready to have a baby.. I couldnt financially provide for it.... I want my children to have good stable lives.. not the type that I can provide for it now... Please!!! I need some advice... I don't believe in ABORTION but I can't tell my parents!!!
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 9:54pm
Hi jenna0509, welcome!

Ok, hon. try and stay calm. The first thing to do is to have blood drawn for a pregnancy test to make certain you have the correct result. If I were you I'd go to the doctor who gave you the Depo shot or to your local Planned Parenthood. Once you know for sure Planned Parenthood can counsel you if you need to consider your options. iVillage has an Unplanned Pregnancy board that you might want to take a look at if you find you need it. http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-pppgunplan One thing you can do while you are awaiting the results of the test is begin to take prenatal vitamins. When you have your blood test I hope you get the result you want. Let us know how you're doing, ok?

(((HUGS)))

      Jill

    

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Registered: 04-10-2003
Wed, 09-08-2004 - 12:14pm
Jenna, try and calm down. It'll be ok. I was in a similar situation when I got prego w/ my oldest daughter at the age of 20. I was unemployed and my then fiance(now hubby) had just gotten fired from his job. Then on top of that, when I was 3 months pregnant my parents decided to take away my car.(They got it for me in their name when i was 16, but I always made the payments for it b/c they said they would sign it over when I turned 18. Then when I became of age they wouldnt sign it over) So we had no income or transportation, except for the not so reliable city bus. I considered having an abortion, but knew in my heart I would not be able to live with myself. It was extremely tough, but we made it. My daughters are the best thing that ever happened to me.

Just be sure and take advantage of all the government assistance that is available, like WIC, foodstamps, and Medicaid. Also, if you meet income requirements the government will pay for daycare if you decide to go to work after the baby is born. There is all kinds of help out there. You don't have to be wealthy to be a good mother. All you need is love!

Good Luck in whatever decision you make!

Rachel, 22

Mahogany, 20 mos

Naveyah, 6 mos

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Sun, 09-12-2004 - 11:20pm
First of all, like the others have said....everything will be okay. I was in your shoes exactly a year ago and now i have a beautiful 3 month old baby girl...and guess what, my parents LOVE, LOVE, LOVE her. I'm not exactly as young as you are, I am 27 but I'm not married and come from a pretty religious "southern baptist" family. I didn't think I was ready just yet to take on the responsibilty of parenthood, as a matter of fact I knew I wasn't ready. I felt as if I still had a lot of living single and free left in me....well that is until I heard that heartbeat for the first time. Pregnancy and motherhood is truly a gift, even if you feel that you are in the worst of circumstances. I seriously thought my family just would not ever understand, not from me anyway, but everything has turned out for the best. My advice to you is to wait and see if you truly are pregnant, and then if you are, try to wait until your first trimester is over before you tell your family(if you can wait that long). But before that APPLY FOR MEDICAID if you do not have insurance, it is a wonderful program that I would not have known about or even thought about if my own sister hadn't suggested it. And don't be ashamed, no mater what...this isn't about you or your mom or dad anymore....it is about a precious baby that only has the chance that you give it. Good luck, it will be a wonderful experience if you just accept it!

Mandy and Annabelle (3 months)

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Registered: 08-04-2004
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 1:43am
I hope everything works out for you. I wanted to concur with the previous poster about applying for Medicaid. What a wonderful resource. Financial problems are one less thing you need to be worried about. Good luck to you.

~Angie