HELP plz!!!!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
HELP plz!!!!
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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 2:57am
Hey

I'm confused I keep hearing different things about when it's the worst or most unsafe time in your cycle to have sex. For ie. In my cycle I start my period the 1st of every month and it usually lasts for 3-5 days. So I don't understand, isn't it that right after I finish my period and right before are the safest times to have sex (with protection ofcourse)?? How long before and after is it *safest*?? When is it the least safe?? I don't understand, my mom says one thing, my friends say another, my aunts say something else... its confusing me :S

thanks for your help

ash

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Registered: 10-08-2003
In reply to: shoegal04
Sun, 10-10-2004 - 9:34am
Well- im sure one of the charting ladies will post soon for you on the board but i will tel you that unless you chart your cycles with your basal temp, mucus and cervical position its hard to know when the "safe time" is-- I got pregnant with my now 4 yr old son during my period ( it was the next to last day of AF) With my daughter i got preggers after naturally skipping two months-- ( no BC during or prior to either baby) Like i said im sure one of the other ladies will respond soon.


HTH

Amity

DS 9.12.00

DD 4.12.04

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Registered: 12-30-2003
In reply to: shoegal04
Sun, 10-10-2004 - 9:47am
Hi shoegal04, welcome!

If you are cycling naturally it will depend on the length and regularity of your cycles as to exactly when the safest time for unprotected intercourse will be for you. The safest time is a few days after ovulation. However, the only way you are going to be able to tell for sure when you ovulate is to chart your fertility signs; basal body temperature, cervical position and cervical mucus. You can not count cycle days and be safe since natural cycles can be thrown off by illness and stress. If you have irregular or very short cycles it is possible that you could become fertile during your period so it is very important that you recognize and understand your fertile signs. A very good book on the subject is Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. It's easy to read and understand with picture and charts of the points being covered. TCOYF is available in most libraries and bookstores. I think TCOYF is a must read for anyone wanting to know how their menstrual cycle works. Thanks for posting. Come back and see us.

Good luck,

      Jill

    

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: shoegal04
Sun, 10-10-2004 - 10:42am
Yeah,unless you know EXACTLY when you ovulate you can't really tell someone when the safe time is....It all depends on ovulation.Some women ovulate early in their cycle and some ovulate late....everyone's different...

www.tcoyf.com

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Registered: 07-04-2003
In reply to: shoegal04
Sun, 10-10-2004 - 1:41pm
"So I don't understand, isn't it that right after I finish my period and right before are the safest times to have sex (with protection ofcourse)??"


Hi Ash,


If you are using condoms as protection, and using them properly, you should be able to have sex at any time during the month and be protected.


But if you are not using condoms and only charting your cycle, the please read the book taht was suggested by Julie and learn as much as you can about it so you don't have any worries about getting pregnant.