Awe, what a little sweetheart!! I am so happy she is home and that all of you are getting a chance to breath and enjoy each other. That first month is such a fog, but so much fun too. Sorry about the reflux. Check out the parenting after stillbirth board. A few of the girls there have LO's with reflux and they will probably have some great advice for you.
Take care and she is a doll!!!