What do I do for us-women advise PLEASE!
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What do I do for us-women advise PLEASE!
| Mon, 08-21-2006 - 10:45am |
My girlfriend whom I adore and I have recently gone on the pill, her drive
is nearly gone, and it is affecting us. Seems this is common. But as a man,
and being left feeling nearly totally undesired by her is VERY problematic
for me and us. I want to do the very best I can by her and am asking all
women:
HOW CAN I HELP????????
She and this is important girls/gals/grrl/ladies/etc........what
would help you if you were there? what could your man do for you,
and eachother that would make things good/easier/helpful. What have you
tried in the past and what worked.......ther has to be a way to keep
a lack of passion and itimacy from creeping onto the beginning of a great
relationship......?
Thanks in advance!
MG

How long has your girlfriend been on the pill? And do you know which kind she is on? Loss of libido is a common side effect of birth control, and although I haven't ever had that one (have had PLENTY others, though), I think that it's generally one that is best treated with switching pills. I don't know how much you know about birth control pills, but they are made up of synthetitc hormones. Sometimes changint the estrogen content helps with certan side effects, and sometimes changing the type of progestin does. It's kind of a trial and error type deal, because every girl reacts differently to different pills, but a doctor will know what works best for treating/avoiding certain symptoms, so it would be best for your girlfriend to discuss perhaps switching to a different pill with whoever prescribed the pill to her.
Also, have you spoken to her about your concerns? Even if you haven't, I am sure it is worrying her too. It's probably best to be open about the problem... when I went on the pill for the first time, I had a lot of trouble. It took me a while to figure out the right pill for me, and my boyfriend was very understanding through it all. That's what is really important. If you are understanding with her, you will be able to figure out a solution without putting too much stress on the relationship.
Good luck!
Hi Martin, welcome to the Birth Control Board!
Jill
>>>I’ve been there… I was on Ortho Tri-Cyclen for 3 years and while it was very effective as birth control after 2 years I lost my libido and had other side effects I didn’t even know I had until I stopped taking hormones altogether a year later. At that point I had just met a new man and I couldn’t stand him touching me. I knew I was in trouble and had to do something so I stopped hormones and within 2 weeks my libido came bounding back and I felt so much better, vibrant and alive. For the last 4 years I’ve been using cervical barriers, a cervical cap or diaphragm and love how well they work for me. But I’m sure your GF will want to see if she can find a pill that works before she tries another method.<<<
If my husband would wear a condom, that would help.