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| Sat, 09-09-2006 - 10:29pm |
This may seem like a dumb post to some people reading and/or adminstrating this board. But I'm just really looking for some reassurance/support. Well, here goes...
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over two and a half years. We were each other's first boyfriend/girlfriend and each other's first sexual partners also. We wait about a year before having sex as I felt as if I was not ready yet. This gave us time to get to know each other better and also mature. So when we did finally have sex, it was special, as it always is. We used condoms in the beginning (always) and then when we got to college last year I started on the pill. It took me a while to get a brand that worked for me and in the meantime, we used both the pill (I take it RELIGIOUSLY everyday at 9:00 am) and a condom. Now I have been on a brand that works for me and everything's been going well. The thing that bothers me is that I think he wants to have sex without a condom and although I want to too and know that it would be almost 100% safe, I still feel apprehensive about it. It's that whole "what if?" scenario. I just can't see myself with a child anytime soon and don't need to chance it, but honestly, it's only 1% chance on the pill right? I suppose we could try it right after my period or right before therefore I would not be "ovulating" (even though I know you don't ovulate technically on the pill). I guess what I'm looking for is some reassurance and/or support. How long have you been on only the pill and it worked for you? And one last question, when he comes inside you, is it messy? I mean does it like drip out if you stand up or something? I'm not a sex newbie but I still feel so uneducated, haha. Thanks in advance to everyone who answers. I appreicate this board so much. :)

I chose to use the pill and condoms with my husband. Once we were married, we stopped using condoms. I was just like you. I wanted to take extra procautions. But in the months we just used the pill and no condoms.... there was no pregancy. My mom was on the pill for five years and never got pregnant during that time. The pill's job is to prevent pregancy, so you are just fine just using the pill... but having that condom there does add more peace of mind.
If you don't use a condom, your boyfriend's semen will leak out of you after sex. I find that sex without a condom is MUCH messier than with a condom. I now clean up after sex because of it.
megan
I've tried various methods, and at present rely on condoms alone (can't use hormonal methods).