depo concerns.....
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| Sun, 10-08-2006 - 5:08am |
HI,
i have read alot of the discussions on this site about the shot, but i feel that i need just a bit more information and advice.
I am really glad i found these discussions, it DEFINATELY explains alot with what is going on with me!!!
* i recieved my first depo shot the day i was discharged from the hospital after giving birth. It has now been a little over 8 months and i have not stopped bleeding, not spotting...bleeding. (i did once, but it only lasted about a week)
* I became so depressed and moody. i was such a horrible person and i knew it, but i couldn't stop. I hated feeling that way. i was accusing my husband of everything you can think of, hitting him, arguing over the stupidest things. i found myself crying constantly.... i remember washing dishes in the sink and some water got on the counter and made a wet spot on my shirt. i couldnt make myself stop crying!
*Also, i was totally miserable and mad at myself because i could not get the weight back off (from the pregnancy)
i had to get help, so my doctor put me on Lexapro. I think it helped a bit.
I do have to say, i never lost my sex drive, not enough to notice anyway...
Here is my problem now....
my husband never really had a problem with me bleeding while having sex, we were just limited to certain ways because it is messy. shower afterwards..no problem. Well, lately he wont even touch anymore. i have to make him kiss me. if i try to initiate... he just says its too messy and he doesnt want to. i know he loves me and i dont think there is anyone else...and of course as any other woman, i am starting to wonder if he really isnt attracted to me anymore since i cant lose the weight (i'm not huge, but i am not skinny either) and i cant stop bleeding... and that isnt what a man wants when he wants to make love.....which is starting to send me back on that emotional roller coaster ride...
Since reading the other stories... i now blame depo!! I hate it and i'm not taking it anymore, but in the meantime while it wears off, what can i do... (i'm already getting paranoid wondering what is going to happen if i cant satisfy him anymore)
can anyone help me understand whats wrong with me? or a guy to help me understand his change?

Hi kfox0927,
The only thing you can do is talk to your obgyn about trying estrogen hormone therapy to help stop the bleeding, as this will work against the effects of the progesterone in Depo.
hi,
thanks for the reply....
He actually understands what i was going through back in the beginning, his sister had went through the same thing after her baby. The antidepressants really helped me.
As for the other part, let me maybe give you more details:
Its more like just recently within the last couple of months, he'll go in to kiss me, but then all he does is lick my face and tries to be funny, he tries to wrestle with me and poke me while in all that constantly telling me how much he loves me...his actions are somewhat of that frat boy you dated in college.... this was never his actions with me before. i want him to touch me intimately and kiss me right. I CAN understand he has just gotten sick of the bleeding, because frankly i have to. Really and truely its gross!
No one like rejection and i'm scared its going to bring me back to that emotional state because i have already started the crying episodes. silly huh?
Hi kfox0927, welcome!
Jill
love ya
kimberly
Hi kfox,
If you don't like the way he is behaving, then tell him so.