I'm thinking of having my tubes tied

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2006
I'm thinking of having my tubes tied
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Mon, 10-09-2006 - 10:49pm

Hello All,

I am new. I am forty one years young. I am a positive and loving person. I have a son who is 10 years old. I will be getting married next year and moving to Charlotte, NC from Los Angeles. Its a big move that I am looking forward to.

What I am not looking forward to is my ongoing female issues following me. Ladies please help. I have periods so heavy that I become anemic. I'm starting to miss work. My Dr thought I had fibroids. But, the results of an ultra sound didn't show the fibroids. To make matters worse the office lost my chart. I did change Drs. I did get a RX for the pill before leaving. Yikes. I had not taken the pill since the age of 27 years old. They gave me Low-Ogestrel. I know that you are supposed to experience mild nausea. Since Friday until today I have been sick. I am not exaggerating when I say that I felt sick every minute today. I tried eating. I sipped water. Nothing helped. Needless to say I will not be taking one more pill. UUUGGGHHH!!!! I prayed all the way home today.

So please help. I am ready to have my tubes tied. I thought I wouldn't do it. But, I do not want to put any hormones in my body. I am 100% certain that I will not have any more children. I welcome any comments on the procedure and the outcome.

I've read some of the post. The women here seem extremely supportive and offer great advice.

I really want my health back. I don't want to miss work. I don't want to feel nauseated all day. I will truly appreciate any and all comments.

Take care
Smiley

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-19-2005
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 10:00am

I know several women on our Childfree By Choice board have had TL's, and they all said that the proceedure was relatively quick and not very painful, and that the recovery time was fairly short. A TL will provide you with pregnancy protection without using hormones, so you'll avoid the side effects you've experienced with the pill. However, to the best of my knowledge, a TL only changes the ability of an egg to get out of the ovaries. It doesn't change the production of hormones by the ovaries. So, if your other gyn issues are hormonally related, it will not likely change those.

On a side note, and feel free not to answer if you wish...One thing I noticed in your post was that you said,"I am a positive and loving person." I have to wonder why you felt you needed to say that. Do you assume that most people who seek a TL aren't?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 1:05pm

Hi smiley12006, welcome!


      Jill

    

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2006
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 1:47pm

Thank you for responding.

I made my an appointment for a consultation today. All of the information that I receive will make it easier to discuss. So thank you very much.

I chose to mention that I am positve and loving just to give a feel for my personality. Also because while I've been dealing with my gyno issues I've been feeling just a bit down. I'm used to being the upbeat person. Its difficult to maintain that when your health is not the greatest. My comment is not related to any specific feelings about having a TL. I simply want to make an informed choice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2006
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 1:51pm

Thank you very much.

I am making notes and will mention this to my new Dr. I know in my heart that there is something else going on. I am hopeful that things will go well with my new Dr. My co-worker loves her.

Again, all comments are greatly appreciated.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 2:17pm

Since you are to be married in the near future a Mirena

      Jill

    

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Registered: 01-26-2005
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 8:59pm

how frustrating for you....I have had horrible periods all my life (heavy/painful) so I know how you feel....I had the IUD for about 3 years and my periods went from very heavy/painful to spotting (it took about a year)-meaning my periods were heavy and longer for a few months and got lighter and lighter until at about a year it was basicly spotting for a week....at the 2 year mark I was spotting for about 3 days and right before I had it taken out a little over the 3 year mark I was just basicly spotting for 1 day as a period I LOVED IT....I had some problems with cysts so my dr decided to tie my tubes in may of this year.I also had an ablation to cut down on my heavy periods and so far it's worked and I am very happy.I had 1 period that was kinda heavy but the all the others have been spotting for about 3 days.Maybe you could bring these two options up with your dr to see if they might work for you-eith an IUD or an ablation....good luck whatever you decide and on the move!

*** A hot water ablation is where they circulate hot water in the uterus to "kill" the lining so that your periods won't be as heavy as before-or sometimes they even STOP for some women....

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Registered: 10-09-2006
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 9:42pm

Thank you so very much for your response. Just knowing that there is a light at the end of the tunnel is such a relief. I will ask about the hot water ablation that you mentioned. I am thrilled that you have found some relief. It truly is wonderful to have support. I am looking forward to talking to my Dr on October 19th. I will share my results because I believe that it is extremely helpful to share these experiences. On a lighter note, I've lost a few pounds. That is always nice. Regardless of the source :) Not that I want to go through my bc torture again.

Thanks again,
Smiley12006

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Registered: 10-09-2006
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 10:24pm
I don't mind sharing with everyone that I soooo do not want any more children. One of the many things that my future husband and I agree on is that we are ready to gracefully enter early retirement mode. He just turned 50. I am 41 as I mentioned. We are putting ourselves in a position to abandon the rat race. I'll take up some causes in my new community. But, I mostly want to take up some hobbies. Also, keep an eye on my son. My dad retired at 50. My dad is now 64 years old. Unfortunatey, he has cancer. But, he is in a position to fight it as best as he can. I pray to God that he fights it. But, if he doesn't at least he can say that he had 14 plus years to enjoy life on his own terms. We want that too.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-26-2005
Wed, 10-11-2006 - 9:34pm
yeah...Love the birth control board.I found it a few years ago when I started a new bc pill and didn't know anything about it.I've stuck around LOL a few years and have found lots of useful info....anything like this that gives women info and empowers them so they can make their own educated decisions is wonderful....((HUGS)) good luck...
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