finally ready...need bc advice

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Registered: 02-10-2006
finally ready...need bc advice
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Tue, 10-17-2006 - 10:37pm

I finally decided I was ready.Have a very loving and supportive boyfriend.
We talked about it this past weekend.
I planned to go right out and get on the pill.But with my work schedule the way it is,I can't get in to see the doctor before I see my boyfriend again next weekend.
I feel the timing is right for us and I'm a bit discouraged that I can't get on the pill right now.I see my boyfriend every other weekend (long distance) so now that I've finally gotten to the point that I feel ready physically and emotionally I'd really prefer nto to have to wait another month.
Can I get some input?
What I am worried about is pregnancy.
How well can I prepare myself for this if I can't get any prescription BC before seeing my boyfriend.
We already have condoms,but I would feel better if we were using more than that.
If you were going to without any prescription BC options,what would you use?
How many different things,what combination?

Just want to be (and feel) prepared and safe.

Would truly appreciate your feedback.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 7:36am

When I'm not using hormonal birth control, I use condoms with spermicide.

Judie Cl for Birth Control 
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Registered: 02-10-2006
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 8:53am
THanks for all the advice.
I hadn't thought about the fact that I would have to wait till after my next period anyway.
I have a feeling I'll get it the same weekend and won't wind up having sex anyway lol.That would be ironic wouldn't it?I know he still would be fine with it if I was,but I think a first time would be more pleasant without that mixed in lol.
Thanks for the suggestions on spermicides.I was wondering about that.And I really only knew a little about VCFs.DIdn't know they existed till a couple years ago lol.
Can you use a few drugstore products at the same time?Does that up the efficiency of each?
Could I use a condom,spermicide and VCF?
I don't know whether combining more things is good or whether it risks any of them being less effective.I've tried to find that statistic online but I can't seem to.
I really do appreciate your advice.I've waited a long time (I'm in my late 20s) and it's finally right.So I want to be ready.
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 3:08pm

Hi chrissiesnow, welcome back!


      Jill

    

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Registered: 07-19-2005
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 4:47pm
For spermicides, I highly recommend the pre-filled applicators. Conceptrol is great, because the applicator is very similar to a tampon, so if you use those, it's a snap. Also, it can be applied before, as long as an hour doesn't elapse between application and sex.
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Registered: 01-26-2005
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 7:49pm
good for you for waiting until you know you're ready....ditto on the condoms and spermicide....
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Registered: 02-10-2006
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 7:58pm

I appreciate your advice so much!
I think you gave really great,detailed information.
I really appreciate it.
I've been in the mindframe for years that I've been too scared and too uptight to be with someone in this way.
But it felt like the other night,I wanted to be past that fear.
It's not just about the physical side of it.It's about how he makes me feel.I love him and I know this will be important to both of us.That means so much to me.Being with him just makes me not want to be scared anymore.
So,it's important to me to move past that and be with him.I love the idea of being so close to him.Especially since I've never shared that with anyone before.

And of course I thought it would be much easier to just pop into the doctor and get on the pill.But with my work schedule the next few weeks I just can't do it,I'm not home at all during my doctor's hours.

So sex without being on the pill makes me nervous.But if these other combined methods could be just as safe at preventing pregnancy then I'm not sure I need to be upset about not being on the pill yet.

I appreciate so much your advice.I really want to be calm and be with him.I know it will be special.But I need to be relaxed.

Oh and someone had mentioned STDs,we discussed that already and there is no cause for concern in this case.We're just being careful to avoid pregnancy.

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Registered: 02-10-2006
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 9:37pm
Thanks a lot :) That's nice of you to say.
It's always been really important to me to wait till the right time.
I've had boyfriends in the past try to talk me into it being less of a big deal.But that didn't feel right to me.I thought,when I do this I want it to be with someone that is happy about it being important to me.And I have someone now that knows how important it is to me and is happy about sharing that.I told him I was scared and he said "I'm gonna be right there for you" and I know that's true.I'm so happy with him and while this is scary,I'm excited about this new experience.
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Registered: 02-10-2006
Sun, 10-22-2006 - 4:44pm

I just wanted to thank all of you for the advice.
I'm glad I posted on this board.
I had also posted the same comment on the Like a Virgin board.And basically everyone tried to talk me out of it.
I'm so glad I posted here as well because I got a lot of advice that makes me feel better.I've been waiting for a long time,I've been scared for a long time and I'm looking forward to taking a big step with my boyfriend.Getting to that point was very significant to me and I definitely don't want to be deterred.I just want to feel confidant in the situation.
What I plan to do is use condoms and spermicide.I read the comments you girls have posted and will be getting one of the types in pre-dosed applicators.
Wish me luck.That sounds like an odd thing to say.But your supportive answers meant a lot to me.You are a good network of people and I appreciate the information and support for this big step.

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Sun, 10-22-2006 - 6:02pm

Hi chrissiesnow, welcome back!


      Jill

    

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Registered: 01-26-2005
Sun, 10-22-2006 - 8:40pm
how exciting....Have some lubricant on hand too honey....just in case ya need it....And I was in my late late 20's when I met my "mr right"....
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