HELP PLEASE!! To Pill or Not To Pill?

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Registered: 09-23-2006
HELP PLEASE!! To Pill or Not To Pill?
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Mon, 11-13-2006 - 2:11pm
My boyrfiend is 17 and I'm 18. We've been going out for over a year and a half now. During the summer we had sex for a few minutes, just to try it. We did it one other time as well, and both times he used a condom. (This is not a pregnancy topic.)
So, we both decided it was best to wait another year, (when we plan to move in together) before we had sex again-considering it was hard to get away with it at our houses and we had also worried about pregnancy.
A while ago, I went to my doctor and she gave me two months free YAZ BC to try if we decided to do it more than we had been.
My boyfriend said we could still wait, so that was that.
Yesterday, during our phone conversation, he said after work he went to sleep over his cousin's house. I guess when he awoke, his cousin and girlfriend were having sex in the same room...? (I trust him completely, but I think this story was a segway into the next fact of our convo--) Immediately after he said this, he asked if, at the beginning of December, I could start on the pill. I told him I would think about it considering I've never been on any pills or perscriptions during my life, and I had just been cured from my anxiety and depression.
The truth is, and I will talk to him, that I'm just not ready. If Yaz has side effects of depression, mood swings, and other emotional things, (which it does) then is it not understandable that I WANT to wait until I am one-thousand percent better? I mean, I just got over a bunch of anxiety stuff... Do you think it's bad that I say no?
Should I go on the pill? I'd love to have sex with him because of how intimate and special it is. But on the other hand, I don't want to jeopardize my body anymore than it has been. (I might have to take pills for suddenly being Lactose-intolerant)
I don't know what to do. I will talk to him... but I need some opinions.
--help--
--Maranda--
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 9:22pm

Hi vindicateddreams welcome to the Birth Control board!


      Jill

    

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Registered: 09-23-2006
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 9:31pm
Thank you so much for the kind words. I did talk to him, and as expected (actually more than expected) He was perfect with it. He actually, honestly said, "Don't worry about it, honey. You know we both want it, but I don't want you to hurt yourself over it. I wouldn't want it if there was a chance a pill could hurt you. We'll just keep waiting until you are ready and find something with hopefully no side effects."
:-) XD
But anyways, thanks for the warm welcome to the board. I'm sure I'll be on ivillage a lot. It's my relationship Bible. lol.
-maranda-
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 11-14-2006 - 12:17am

Hi again hon,


      Jill