let me do it

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Registered: 04-13-2006
let me do it
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Thu, 12-21-2006 - 12:42pm
i have a 4 month baby and i want to have sex without having to worry if i'm pregnant or not. i have talked to my husband plenty of times about birth control but he is just not wanting me to have it. althoug i have told him that i am not ready for another child he feels like that is not an option. hoe can i make him understand that i want birth control and that there's more than one option for it.


Edited 12/21/2006 1:01 pm ET by sodapple09
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Registered: 12-30-2003
In reply to: sodapple09
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 2:31pm

Hi sodapple09, welcome!


      Jill

    

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Registered: 08-11-2004
In reply to: sodapple09
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 3:13pm

It's your body, and you have rights. If your husband doesn't want you to use birth control, you have the right to tell him you won't have sex without it. You also have the right to go and talk to your doctor on your own and make your own decisions about this. It might be good to sit down with your doctor and your husband and talk over options together.

If your husband is controlling and would intentionally sabotage you by throwing pills away or something like that, then you might want to talk to your doctor about a long term method like an IUD that can't be sabotaged.

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Registered: 02-19-2005
In reply to: sodapple09
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 3:19pm

What is his beef? I'm not understanding this. He isn't allowing you to use birth control? That is just plain wrong, it's not up to him. He needs to realize that you will not have sex unless you have some sort of bc.

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