I don't want to be pregnant

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Registered: 04-21-2003
I don't want to be pregnant
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Fri, 12-22-2006 - 11:22am
Hi, I really need help to know when exactly is the "safe period" for women if we are going to have sex and don't want to get pregnant. I DO understand that we should use condoms every time, but what if we weren't prepared? I have been seeing this guy I really like for a couple of months now, yesterday was the first time we had sex, and the thing is, I did intend for that to happen, and it just did, and we didn't have any protection around. Honestly, I was so scared afterwards, because I have never let a guy to come inside of me without condoms, and this guy did... and now I'm nervous. Anyway, I know the most chance that a woman will get pregnant is about a week before her period. Well, I had started my period about 10 days ago, and stopped bleeding about 5 days ago. So, am I in the "safe period"? What are the chances that I might get pregnant? I do NOT want to have that happen to me right now. This won't be a good timing for me. The next time, I will have the some protection ready so I won't be nervous about it. Or better yet, I may go on birth control pill if I have to. So all of you experts out there, please let me know what you think?! Thank you in advance!
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Registered: 08-11-2004
Fri, 12-22-2006 - 5:35pm

The answer to the question of what if you weren't prepared is that you could have done something like oral sex instead of intercourse, or told him you wouldn't have sex without a condom and guaranteed he would have gone out real quick and gotten some.

You really should see if you can get emergency contraception, and keep some extra around just in case. You're definitely *not* safe right now and there is a fairly good chance you could become pregnant. Ten days after your period started means you could ovulate any day now, and you can conceive if you had sex several days before. Women usually ovulate around 11 to 16 days before their next period starts, not one week before like you were thinking.

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Fri, 12-22-2006 - 10:39pm

Hi

      Jill

    

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Sat, 12-23-2006 - 8:20am
Thank you so much for your helpful advice. I did go get Plan B took the 1st pill as instructed - within 5 hrs from the time of unprotected sex, and then I should take the 2nd pill 12 hours later. BUT, as I am traveling this weekend for the holidays toward the westcoast from the eastcoast, and I knew there was an 3hr time difference. I just realized that I made big mistake! I am supposed to subtract 3hrs and not add 3hrs (I was so stressed and don't what I was thinking, so instead of taking it at 12 hrs later, I just took the 2nd pill 6hrs later! I am freaking out...and don't know who else to ask. What should I do now? I am so distraught... PLEASE HELP!!!
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Sat, 12-23-2006 - 10:20am

I think you are probably ok. Some doctors recommend taking both pills

      Jill

    

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Sat, 12-23-2006 - 11:31am
Jill, thanks again for your comforting words.
Sorry, my message was a little confusing. What I meant was that I took the 2nd pill 6hrs later than 12th hour, which means that I waited until 18 hours later to take the 2nd plan B pill. I'm supposed to take it at 1:30am, but instead I took it at 7:30am, due to my mistake. Anyway, since I am still in the 72hrs window, should I go get another Plan B, start over again? Hopefully, there is no health risk. No matter what, the last I want is to get pregnant right now. I'm going to go to the pharmacy in a couple of hours, and see what the pharmacist say. I appreciate your genuine concern.
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Sat, 12-23-2006 - 12:52pm

Hi again hon,


      Jill

    

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Sat, 12-23-2006 - 1:18pm
I just talked to a pharmacist, and I was told that since I took both pills within the 72 hr window, so I should be ok. The important thing is that I took the 1st pill very early - within 5hrs of the incident. I feel a little better now, hopefully nothing will happen. Please pray for me. Thank you for taking the time to respond. Have a wonderful holiday weekend and Happy New Year!
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Sat, 12-23-2006 - 2:20pm

That's great!!! Thanks for the update hon!


      Jill