freaking out.. PLEASE help

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Registered: 07-14-2006
freaking out.. PLEASE help
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 2:07pm
Hi.
a week ago i lost my virginity to my boyfriend. i am 18 and a senior in high school. i am not on birth control, but we used a condom and did everything right. he put it on before anything sexual started to happen, and he pulled out before he came. i over-analyze things and have been freaking out the past week. i keep thinking about what if im pregnant? i mean i shouldnt be but i cant help these thoughts- i am NOT ready to have a baby. i've been so scared i've actually made myself sick to my stomach. i talked to my boyfriend and we arent having sex again until i am on birth control pills. but until then.. i am so scared! my mestrual cycle is around 25-29 days, and i should be starting within the next week, but if i dont start early like usual, i am going to freak out. i guess you can call this discussion venting, but i cant help it. i don't really need any advice i just need to know if i am thinking too much into this. should i be this scared? is it possible for me to be pregnant even though we used a condom and did everything right? i just need to know that it's going to be okay, so if anyone with more experience out there would like to tell me something, it would be greatly appreciated. thank you so much.
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Registered: 07-14-2006
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 6:30pm
please SOMEBODY give me something here... i need advice/comforting words? pleasee.
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 6:40pm

Hi caryyy2, welcome to the Birth Control board!


      Jill

    

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Registered: 07-01-2005
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 6:43pm
if you were ovulating around the time of the deed then anything is possible. most women have a 28 day cycle and ovulate around day 14. if the condom didnt break and he had it on before you started anything then the chances are slim. most of the time you need to wait 2 weeks after the deed for anything to show up on a pregnancy test, so you may need to just wait and see if your period arrives. at least you are taking the responsibility and going on BC before you do it again. I believe it is too late to even consider EC. Just try to relax because stress can cause your period to be late. I hope that helps you some.

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Registered: 11-02-2005
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 1:47pm

Please relax. My husband and I use condoms all the time. We don't use Birth control pills. I have never gotten pregnant with the condom. The only chance of getting pregnant with the condom is if it breaks. And by the way, stress may cause your period to be late. I would wait until about next weekend and if you still don't have a period then I would try a pregnancy test. I think it's highly unlikely that anything happened as long has the condom was used correctly and none of his secretions got around your vaginal area. Take care of yourself. PLease keep me updated!!

Laura

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Registered: 08-12-2002
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 9:40pm
My partner and I use condoms as our primary form of contraception, and I know others that do as well. I personally don't know anyone that has had an unplanned pregnancy with proper use of condoms. If he didn't leak out the bottom of the condom, and the condom didn't break, then the chances of pregnancy are very small.

 


 


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Registered: 01-02-2007
Tue, 01-02-2007 - 4:25pm
Many women skip periods when they loose their virginity...(At least everyone I know)...If you miss your period take an over the counter pregnancy test...Hope this helps some...I know I missed 3 periods after I lost my virginity.
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Registered: 07-14-2006
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 3:54pm
Thank you all for your advice and comforting words, it made me feel a lot better, and i ended up starting my period. soon i am going to go to the doctor to check out some birth control methods. i want to get on the Pill. does anyone know how much it costs? and since i am 18 am i able to keep this confidential between the doctors and myself so that my parents don't find out? and how long do i need to be on birth control until it is safe to have sex? thank you.
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Registered: 07-01-2005
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 5:18pm
legally doctors cannot tell your parents anything from age 16 up unless you want them to.

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 5:19pm

Hi again hon, welcome back!


      Jill