sex without condoms and the pill
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sex without condoms and the pill
| Mon, 01-22-2007 - 10:44pm |
I am not on birth-control, and my boyfriend does not seem to like to use condoms. So we've been having sex without any form of birth control. He thinks that I won't get preganent if he doesn't come inside of me, but I'm still nervous about it. What about pre-come? Does anyone have any knowledge about this issue? We both are not ready to have children at this point our lives, so we must educate ourselves and not taking any risks. Please tell me how I can talk to him about it.
Thank you.

i am going to suggest that you start doing natural family planning charting and all that if you arent going to use birth control and dont want to get pregnant. you can get pregnant with precum if your cervical mucus is the right way and you can get pregnant 5 days after intercourse also if your cervical mucus is right. fertilityfriend.com has a free program you can use or you may want to buy the book taking charge of your fertilty, they have a great book to try to avoid and achieve pregnancy. local churches may also offer a class on how to do natural family planning and there are some message boards on here for fertility charting and family planning.
tell your boyfriend that you can get pregnant with precum and if your cervical mucus is right you can get pregnant by just having precum or normal ejaculate around your vagina. hope that helps you some.
Hi ljin2003, welcome!
Jill
that's a highly dangerous game.
I got pregnant almost a year ago with that same method. my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, we started out using condoms all the time and gradually stopped. we practiced the "withdrawal" method for a long time, and then our stupidity finally left me unlucky. neither of us were into having a kid and I had an abortion.
so the thing is, you can try the natural family planning, which is pretty good if you really stick with it (but this is an everyday thing) or you chance getting pregnant and deal with the consequences in whatever way you choose. and no matter what you choose, it's a life changing choice, and it's a lot to put your body thru.
I'd tell your boyfriend that he's selfish. if you get pregnant, you are the one who ultimately has to deal with it. it's easy for him to say that he doesn't like condoms when he physically isn't at risk.
Anita