sex without condoms and the pill

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Registered: 04-21-2003
sex without condoms and the pill
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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 10:44pm

I am not on birth-control, and my boyfriend does not seem to like to use condoms. So we've been having sex without any form of birth control. He thinks that I won't get preganent if he doesn't come inside of me, but I'm still nervous about it. What about pre-come? Does anyone have any knowledge about this issue? We both are not ready to have children at this point our lives, so we must educate ourselves and not taking any risks. Please tell me how I can talk to him about it.

Thank you.

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Registered: 07-01-2005
Mon, 01-22-2007 - 11:05pm

i am going to suggest that you start doing natural family planning charting and all that if you arent going to use birth control and dont want to get pregnant. you can get pregnant with precum if your cervical mucus is the right way and you can get pregnant 5 days after intercourse also if your cervical mucus is right. fertilityfriend.com has a free program you can use or you may want to buy the book taking charge of your fertilty, they have a great book to try to avoid and achieve pregnancy. local churches may also offer a class on how to do natural family planning and there are some message boards on here for fertility charting and family planning.

tell your boyfriend that you can get pregnant with precum and if your cervical mucus is right you can get pregnant by just having precum or normal ejaculate around your vagina. hope that helps you some.

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 12:46am

Hi ljin2003, welcome!


      Jill

    

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Registered: 10-21-2006
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 6:19am
Hehe, tell him it doesn't work! That's how I wound up with my son Vincent! ;)
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Registered: 01-20-2007
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 8:27am
hi,
that's a highly dangerous game.
I got pregnant almost a year ago with that same method. my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, we started out using condoms all the time and gradually stopped. we practiced the "withdrawal" method for a long time, and then our stupidity finally left me unlucky. neither of us were into having a kid and I had an abortion.
so the thing is, you can try the natural family planning, which is pretty good if you really stick with it (but this is an everyday thing) or you chance getting pregnant and deal with the consequences in whatever way you choose. and no matter what you choose, it's a life changing choice, and it's a lot to put your body thru.
I'd tell your boyfriend that he's selfish. if you get pregnant, you are the one who ultimately has to deal with it. it's easy for him to say that he doesn't like condoms when he physically isn't at risk.
Anita
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Registered: 01-08-2007
Wed, 01-24-2007 - 5:03pm
Hi, me and my boyfriend did the same thing. within the first month we were together, i skipped my period, and sure enough i was pregnant even though he pulled out every time. if you're not intending on having a child, it is simply not worth it. call your gyno and get on the pill ASAP...u wont regret it. then u can have sex as much as you want- worry free
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Registered: 01-08-2005
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 7:20pm
The pull out method is not an effective method. I did a speech about it and I think it was something like 23/100 women get pregnant. Just get on birth control, it'll lower your chances of getting pregnant to 1/100.