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|Mon, 07-05-2010 - 6:30pm|
I've lost a couple of friends due to being atheist. I'm probably about to lose another.
A core value of mine is to be honest with my friends. I never lie to them. If they ask a question, I answer it fully.
Today my friend and I had the day off work so we decided to ride bicycles together. About an hour into it we decided to take a brake. We were sitting at a picnic table and I said, "Well as you know I'm not religious, but it is like what the preacher said yesterday..." when suddenly I looked up at her and realize what I'd just done. She apparently didn't realize that I was not religious.
So then she asked me a barrage of questions and I answered. Oh wow... That did not go well. I was quoting scripture from my past and explaining why I felt the God of the bible was evil and unworthy of worship. Telling her that was gut wrenching for me because I KNOW how dearly and deeply she holds her religion. I just wanted to shut up, but she asked the questions and my core value of full honesty wouldn't let me bite my tongue. I kept apologizing for what I believed. I kept hoping she'd see how much distress I was in and say, "It's OK, you don't have to answer."
Then she asked, "Well why'd you go to church with me yesterday?" and I said, "Oh. Just to hang out with you."
I hate losing friends for this reason. I lost one in college over ten years ago and one at work about six years ago.
Past friends and family members have told me I need to stop being so honest. They say I should tell people, "I'm Southern Baptist." I just can't stand lying.