Bad Parent???????? -triggers
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Bad Parent???????? -triggers
| Sun, 11-16-2003 - 9:30pm |
I'm having a really hard time being "there" for my kids right now. I am managing the basics like feeding, bathing, laundry, etc. but that's it. My oldest, 14, has recently started being around me as much as possible. Like the only time she's not is when she's at school or asleep or I'm still at work. When I sit at the computer to check my mail, she's there peering over my shoulder. When I go to take a bath, she's there talking about stuff. I have tried to be nice and ask that she give me some privacy but she does that hyper-sensitive thing and ends up thinking I "hate" her. I know part of it is her age but I just can't handle it right now. My 10 year old starves for "cuddle time" because she feels that her 7 year old brother "always" gets to cuddle with mommy. My 7 year old, of course, says he doesn't get to cuddle with me either.As their mom, I have to be there for them. Well, gotta go. DD is lurking once more.
Traci
Edited 11/19/2003 10:37:24 AM ET by musclvr66

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HI Traci,
I can totally relate. My son Jordan is 12 and a boy so its a little different, but he always seems to want to 'hang all over me' when im busy with something ... grrrrrrrrr
I do have a suggestion that has helped me alot and Jordan loves and maybe it would work for you. Last year I started a "JORDAN NIGHT" .. On Thursdays no matter what, after dinner I dont get on the computer or do anything but spend time with him for a few hours.. Sometimes we watch TV or play a game.. We always make a special treat in the kitchen right after dinner for later and we both really look forward to that time together now.
What if you tried to do that ? I know with 3 kids its harder but I bet if you sat down with all of them and planned out a "special time" each week to do something just with each of them, it would make a difference in how things go. Maybe 2 hours on Saturday morning to take your oldest "window shopping"; or
*hugs
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