OK my STBX maybe nuttier than me...

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Registered: 04-23-2003
OK my STBX maybe nuttier than me...
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Wed, 11-19-2003 - 11:31am
...and I have been certified by many preofessional as mentally ill.

Last night he calls me (from Korea) in response to an email I sent him...not exactly a nice one. If you read my last post you can see what this slug has done.

Anyway he said to me that me asking him not to put the divorce through (so I can keep medical benefits) is trying to get him to commit a crime. He said that it's a crime (fraud) to be married and not "together" while he is the Army.

And my reaction was ¿? --> :O and then :p *rassssberry*

I know many people for many reasons who stay separated for many years and do a divorce when they get around to it.

Any military out there.....Is this true or is it the usual paranoid delusions of my STBX?

If it is true...well there I am with yet another kick in the gut! :(

Hugs,

KarenMRH

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 11:58am
(((((((((Karen)))))))))))))! Sweetie, the only info I have is 20 yo, but when i was in, what your STBX is claiming would have been considered a load of BS! I can't imagine the Army has changed that much over the years! Follow up with the phone calls that Step (I think) gave you. But, I think he's just handing you a line honey:-( Hang in there sweetie. Big Hug for you (((((((((((((((Karen))))))))))))))))). I'm off to face my own music now:-(

Peace Love & Light

Foggy T

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 3:04pm

That certainly doesn't sound realistic to me.

 

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CL-ladybug987

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Registered: 08-21-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 4:08pm
Karen, I was in the military several years ago and have never heard of such a thing. I was separated quite a while (for medical benefit purposes) before we got a divorce. My sister and her husband (who is currently in the military) have been separated for 2 years now. The only reason they have not filed for divorce is because she is a stay at home mom who needs the medical benefits. He has agreed to not file for divorce until she gets a full-time job (once their child is in first grade - another year). Therefore, not filing for divorce and/or not taking you off of medical insurance is NOT a crime.