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| Thu, 11-20-2003 - 11:06am |
I have been diagnosed with depression 2 months ago. I'm still not very comfortable talking about it, but i have just recently started therapy. I'm much closer to my father, so he is the only one of my family that knows about what has been going on with me. Now for the big question, how can i make him understand how i feel? We are from another country and his perception of mental disorders is a little more warped than average. He thinks that having depression is a stigma that will affect my life down the road. He resents the fact that i have to take medication. He can't understand how come somtimes i just can't get out of bed and go to class or work or get anything done. He blames my boyfriend for my problem, when he is the only one that really understands how i feel because he has been there before. He treats it like a contagious disease. And this the more understanding parent, so it's not like i can turn to anyone else. So how can i talk to him? Any ideas are welcome.
~Anya

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Foggy T
When I had to talk to my mom about it, It was probably one of the hardest thing that I had to do one because it was kinda forced on me to talk to her, I was suicidal at the time and my sister called my mom crying saying that she thought that I was ganna kill myself so my mom came to my house to talk to me save me.
When I talked to my mom she blammed herself saying that she should have seen the signs ect... I told her that it wasnt her she helped a little lack of love attention encouragement ect...
She still finds it hard to understand she thinks that I can control it but I cant with meds I keep it at bay a little.
But your dad and my mom are two different people from two different countries so different cultures see things diffrerently I know my roommate who is from puerto rico sees what is wrong with me as something that I should snap out of that therapy is a waste of time that he and his family dont believe in any of this stuff.
With depression it is so hard to try to make others understand where you are coming from especially when they have never been there all you can do is tell it from your heart be honest that is the best I can tell you and I am sorry.
I wish there was more I could tell you and help you but each family person situation is different and we all can only handle it and tell others the way we feel baest about doing it.Good luck and keep up with the therapy and keep us posted.
Welcome to the board Anya!!!
Explaining to your family is probably the next hardest thing to deciding you have a problem with depression and asking for help. Especially with the misconceptions about the disease.
(((((Anya))))), I'm glad you found us.
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