hate being depressed for no reason! help
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hate being depressed for no reason! help
| Mon, 11-24-2003 - 4:53am |
hi eveyone..i have been suffering depression for along time now and not a soul knows about it ..its gotton worse for 2 months now i find it hard 2 look people directly in the eyes why? i am a bit shy..but i can also be loud...anyways my self esteem has dropped ..i get really self concious..why am i getting like this..sumtimes i cry ...i just want to be a confidsent person..me low self esteem is getting me no where ive gained on weight feel so unhappy..i hate the fact that i go really quiet when i go out with guys and then they think i have no personlality gets me more depressed help plz? how can i be a happy confident care free girl? i hate the way i feel !! does anyone feel like this especially with eye contact(cant look people in the eyes)..plz reply sum1

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sweetheart I know exactly what you're going through. When you say that you've had depression for a long time but not a soul knows, does that mean that you haven't seen a doctor about some medication? If so the first thing you need to do is see your doctor about some medication to start controlling your depression. Also see if your doctor can refer you to a cousellor or even if there are informal support groups in your area, sometimes there are groups of people who who have depression who meet regularly to give support to each other.
After you've done that you can work on your self-esteem. That for me was the hardest part. Find something you really enjoy like walking, reading, crafts and see if you can join a group of people who also like that activity, that way you can share your enjoyment and your skills.
The other thing is to remember to take time for yourself each day to go over the day and find 2 positive things about yourself, maybe you wore a really nice lipstick or were polite to the rude person at the shop or maybe even you just got out of bed.
I hope this helps and that I didn't waffle on too much!!
Luv n Hugs
Shannon.
I don't have much to offer right now, but I do want to say welcome to the board. You will find a lot of support, encouragement and suggestions. The ladies here are wonderful. Keep posting.
Foggy
Welcome!
Wow, you sound almost exactly the same as me! I can be really loud or shy, I often say that I have two different personalitites. I, too, have gained alot of weight, but it's been over a period of quite some time. I also have very low self esteem.
I think alot of us can relate about the whole people not knowing. Alot of us put on what we call "the mask" so that nobody can see how we really feel. I think it is a fear of not being accepted.
Are you on medications? Do you go to counseling? Both of these are options, I do both and I find that they really help.
Anyway, I should get back to work!
Take care. I look forward to getting to know you.
Pamela
I am overcoming my depression with medications. I found that they really helped almost immediately. I didn't really "tell" my doctor, I just kept visiting her with different things that meant I couldn't go to work, one week it might be a really bad headache, the next it was stomach ache, then back pain. Eventually my doctor looked at me and just said "there's something bigger wrong here isn't there?". I started crying a couldn't stop again. So she prescribed some antidepressants called Aropax for me.
After taking them for about 5 days I actually started being able to look around me a cope with things.
I really had trouble looking people in the eye, I couldn't look my husband or my boss in the eye. If I saw someone looking at me I thought that they were thinking to themselve "what a waste of space".
My doctor also referred me to our Community Mental Health workers which was free. I'm not sure about America though (I'm in Australia) but I would think there would be something similar. Even if you rang your local hospital but didn't give your name just to ask.
Also, I don't think that unless you're a danger to yourself or anyone else that they'd be allowed to tell anyone because of Privacy Legislation.
Please keep in touch, my email isn't working at the moment or I'd give you my address.
Luv n Hugz
Shannon
ps, how old are you?? not being nosy but sometimes there are special programs and support groups for young people with mental health issues like depression.
Trixie
haticek;
I'm glad that you took the time to post here.
Blessed Be!
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